63 Most Commonly Used Phrases By Narcissistic Mothers

63 Most Commonly Used Phrases By Narcissistic Mothers

Things narcissistic mothers say when they are tearing you down and devaluing you

1. You were a mistake. Everything in my life is your fault because you were born.
2. You’re just like (insert awful individual here)!
3. You’re never going to amount to anything. I don’t know whose child you are.
4. I’m so ashamed of you. You should be ashamed of yourself.
5. No one will ever love you. No one will ever want you.
6. You are worthless.
7. You’re immature.
8. You don’t deserve to be happy.
9. Just wait till your father gets home!
10. It’s a shame you don’t have any friends. People would like you more if you weren’t so ______.
11. Everyone else agrees that you’re horrible/lazy/stupid/otherwise unsavory.

Things narcissistic mothers say when they are jealous of you

1. You’re such a Polly Anna, always with your rose-colored glasses on!
2. You think you’re so pretty/smart/good
3. You’re a (insert rude term here) and you are only trying to get attention!
4. Guys only like you because you’re a (insert rude term here), or girls only like you for your money.
5. People always used to tell me I was pretty.
6. You’re ugly on the inside.

Things narcissistic mothers say when they are issuing the back-handed compliments

1. You’re so smart but you have zero common sense.
2. You would be so pretty if you just lost a few pounds
3. Your house is so clean! No wonder your two-year-old can’t read yet.
4. That dress is so pretty! It would look great on your sister.
5. I’m so proud of your accomplishment – obviously, you get it from me.

Things narcissistic mothers say when they are having delusions of grandeur

1. I am not capable of lying! How dare you accuse me of that?
2. Everyone wishes they could have a mother like me.
3. Calm down! You’re being irrational!
4. I’ll never understand how I gave birth to a horrible child like you.
5. I can’t believe you’re no good at ______. You should be successful at _______ because you’re MY child!


Written by Angie Atkinson
Originally appeared on Queenbeing.com

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63 Most Commonly Used Phrases By Narcissistic Mothers

13 thoughts on “63 Most Commonly Used Phrases By Narcissistic Mothers”

  1. Kids should not be questioning a parent’s authority. YOU are the adult, THEY are the kids. They live under your roof, they are to do as they are told and not disrespect by talking back, yelling, crying, throwing tantrums, or using curse words or physical violence. You hear about kids now in days being rude and disrespectful towards their elders and other authority figures because parent’s like you let them step all over you. You hear about kids calling their parents “stupid”, or telling them to “shut up”, or worse! They throw tantrums for not getting what they want, you give in, and boom! Congratulations, you created a future Karen. You hear about kids, hitting, punching, slapping, even go as far as killing their own parents because they took their electronics away as punishment for not doing what they’re supposed to do like chores or school work?!? That is outrageous! There has to be boundaries in every relationship, including the parent-child relationship, and above all, respect your authority as the parent. Enforcing the rules of the home does not make you narcissistic, enforcing the consequences for their actions is not narcissistic. It’s called parenting; some of you may want to try it.

  2. Every one of those comments were those of my ex husband who always put down his daughters, and me. I could claim maybe two of those comments to be mine. During those times I knew it was wrong of him but I did not defend my daughters….what does this make me? I think now that it was for fear of upsetting him even more but now I wish that I had defended them, even to the death. Hindsight is a wonderful thing!

  3. One thing ive never come across is “mothers of narcissistic daughters”. I was raised by a narcisstic mother…but did not realize it nor open my eyes to it until about 5 yrs ago. And in the early part of my adult hood…(in my 40s now) as i worked to support my 3 kids…i left my kids with my mother when i went to work. I recognize alot of this from my child hood. And unfortunately…i have even spoken a few. I know now that my daughters are damaged from there exposure to my mother…as well as i i am myself. As i learn about all of this i am making great efforts to change and heal. But my question is…what about my kids. What about my daughter. I am her mother…but i am NOT narcisstic by nature. But my daughter seems to be. I am unlearning the negetive language and behavior of the narcisstic nature. But now also…what about my daughter. She is deeply and greatly affected by past influence and exposure that had i known then what was happening i would have removed her from immediately. Please help.

    Mother of a Narcisstic Daughter

  4. Gabriel Stone King

    I have a simple question. Is the woman on the video a mother. I get what she is saying. Being a parent is hard. Maybe focusing on the cause of these comments also, may be in order. I do not agree with parents hurting their children verbally, but I understand the motivation behind it, being a parent myself.

  5. Sounds exactly like my biological mom. All she did was put me down. This just brought back a bunch of memories.

    1. Sounds like my ex mother in law. She also had the irritating way on not ever looking you in the eyes, and her problems always had priority over others.

  6. Sounds just like my sister! I had no idea she was a narcissist until I became her target..4 years later I’m finally starting to heal from her evil devastation that continues to this day..Thank you for your article! Helps those of us left broken-hearted by the people we thought we knew..

  7. Do people really speak to their children this way ?
    Seriously it’s hard to digest most of these statements/questions it’s terrible…

    1. Yes, and as a child you thought their word was god. I’m so thankful for sites like this which help me to work through the damage that was created when I was younger.

  8. This honestly brings back all of the blur memories back. As you guys may know, narcissistic abuse messes up your memory.

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