7. Don’t try to control other people’s behavior.
It is a tremendous burden to attach yourself to outcomes and behaviors you simply don’t control. The only control you have is your own behavior, and that’s tough enough to control. What chance do you think you have of controlling other’s? Free yourself from such fruitless stressors. Instead of trying to control the behaviors of others, set a standard in your own life. Refuse to be disrespected, lied to, or mistreated. Set standards of personal behavior and standards of what you accept from others. Setting standards for yourself is a healthy and effective way to avoid the fruitless burden of trying to control others.
8. We live in a multidimensional world. Don’t live a one-dimensional love.
If you love someone… feel it, speak it, show it, be it. Do more than tell them… show them. Let them feel your dedicated respect and your unwavering devotion. Ensure that your commitment and passion are known and unquestionable. Show them what they mean to you… what they are to you. And… if you don’t feel inspired to show your love in this multidimensional manner… be kind enough to let them go… so they can find someone who will.
9. Stay alert! Don’t let someone’s words blind you from their behavior.
They can say all the right things, they can make you feel things you’ve never felt before but don’t be fooled; their actions will reveal their true character, desires, and priorities. Behavior speaks; pay attention to what it tells you. Behavior is math; pay attention to what it reveals.
10. Don’t live an on-hold life.
Stop just sitting around waiting for “the right one.” The love of your life is out there… but they won’t just drop on your lap, nor you on theirs… so stop living an on-hold life! Go out there and experience your life, write your story, and live your fairy tale. It is on that journey that you’ll cross paths with the love that’s worthy of the story.
© Steve Maraboli
Originally appeared on stevemaraboli.net
Printed with permission
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