3. Invest in your emotional self-care
Alright, now we’re getting into the juicy stuff. This point and the next one are, personally, my biggest ‘HOW WERE WE NOT TAUGHT THIS STUFF IN SCHOOL!?’ realizations in life.
Maybe you had a drastically different schooling experience than I did, but I was taught approximately zero minutes of education on stress management, emotional processing, and targeted self-awareness.
I remember constantly wondering as an especially anxious teenager about questions such as: How does one relax? How do I make friends with my emotions? What should I do with my life? How do I access my tears? Is it okay that I feel angry sometimes?
Can you imagine the ripple effect of a generation of people being mandated to learn more about their feelings? To increase their vocabulary and felt experiences of their internal thoughts and emotions? My guess is that the divorce rate, number of suicides, and instances of sexual assault would drop dramatically within a decade.
I believe deeply in this world vision. I believe in a future reality where at least 20% of secondary school classes are more akin to group therapy than they are to prisons solely focused on skill development.
Put an honest effort toward this area of knowledge. Speaking from experience, you will go so much further in life if you know how to anticipate periods of stress and nip them in the bud before they take you down.
4. Everything is a job
One of my greatest fears during my schooling years was that one day in the future, there would come a time when the ‘real world’ started and I would have to choose one of approximately ten jobs to engage in.
Doctor, lawyer, electrician, bus driver, tradesman….. here they are, take your pick. That’s all you get.
Granted I went to high school during years when high-speed internet access (and computers at all) were only just starting to become commonplace… so many of the jobs that are options now didn’t exist for people on a mass scale.
But if there’s one thing I would impress upon a crowd of high schoolers if I were to give a 30-minute talk as of today, it would be on this exact topic. Absolutely everything is a job.
And this isn’t just some pie-in-the-sky idealistic thinking anymore.
Right now, in my life, I intimately know people whose jobs are:
- – Writing a new short book every month on a wide variety of fiction and non-fiction topics, and making over $20,000 per month (US dollars) doing it.
- – Selling beautiful custom built wooden furniture to small businesses
- – Releasing daily YouTube videos about how to live a masterful life
- – Putting out podcast episodes about different people’s experiences with anxiety
- – Hosting weekend-long retreats in beautiful, sunny locations around the world, and teaching people how to eat healthier and cook for themselves in a time efficient and nutrient dense manner
- – Writing articles and books about sex, relationships, anxiety, depression, emotional processing, spiritual development, kindness, and overall life intentionality… and holding people’s hearts around the world via Skype calls.
And if those jobs are all accessible, lucrative options… well then, everything is a job.
My guidance counselor never sat me down and told me, ‘Jordan, when you grow up… over 10,000 people every day from around the world are going to read your articles … so make sure you’re dedicating your studies towards that.’
No, I just sat down with my heart… asked it what it wanted to do as a career… and then I started putting dedicated, progressive action towards making that my life’s reality.
Long story short… whatever you want to do with your life, it is an option. Hard work and persistence will get you there. Just make sure you check in with your heart before you set off on the path.
Dedicated to your success,
Written by Jordan Gray
Originally appeared on Jordan Gray Consulting
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