If you do any of these things, you are overcompensating. You are doing all of the work in the relationship. You believe that if you only try hard enough, aren’t difficult or demanding, flexible to whatever their whims are, then your person won’t leave you.
Guess what – it just doesn’t work!
As a matter of fact, if you work overtime to make your person happy, in spite of the way that they treat you, you are just making things worse. The more you overcompensate, the more likely they are to lose respect for you, which will only lead them to treat you worse.
So, if your person is treating you badly, don’t bend over backward to try to make them happy. If you stand up for yourself you are way more likely to get what you want – happiness and respect.
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4. Don’t stay for the wrong reasons.
I know that you aren’t that happy in your relationship or you wouldn’t be reading this article. So, I ask you – why are you staying?
Are you staying because of how happy you guys were in the beginning? Are you staying because you don’t want to be alone? Are you staying because you have invested so much time? Are you staying because you don’t want to start dating again? Are you staying because you ‘aren’t a quitter?’ Are you staying because you are worried that you won’t ever love or be loved again?
None of those reasons are a reason to stay in a relationship where someone doesn’t value you. The only reason to stay in this relationship is that you are happy. Don’t stay in this relationship because you think your person can change. That, if you are nice enough, they will go back to the way things were in the beginning. Stay because you are happy with how things are right now.
And leave if you aren’t!
Don’t stay for the wrong reasons. It’s a huge waste of time, time that you could be spending finding someone who will value you and love you forever.
5. Don’t stick around.
The number one way to stand up to someone who doesn’t value you is to walk away. Yes, walk away.
I know it seems easier said than done but if you can walk away from your person you will accomplish one of two things.
First, by walking away, by standing up for yourself, you could earn the respect of the person who has been treating you badly. There is nothing sexier than someone who advocates for themselves, who sees their own value.
Second, if you walk away from someone who doesn’t value you, you will open yourself up to finding someone who does. The longer you stay in this relationship, the longer it will take you to be happy. If you stay in this relationship, as it is, with you being undervalued, your chances of being happy are greatly diminished!
So, be prepared to walk away if you can’t get the respect you deserve!
If you need to stand up to someone who doesn’t value you, do so soon! Every moment that you waste being with someone who makes you unhappy is a wasted moment. I know that you might think that he is your ‘soulmate’ but I can promise you that your soulmate would never treat you the way you have been treated!
So take steps NOW to make change – whatever change you need to do to set yourself up for a life full of happiness and love!
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Written By Mitzi Bockmann Originally Appeared In Let Your Dreams Begin