6. Out Of The Blue Phone Calls
Usually, we are in a different zone or daydreaming, or just focusing all our energies on what we’re doing at the moment. Phone calls at random hours of the day just to “catch up”, because they are bored or have some free time, feels like a nightmare to us, to be honest.
Introverts need mental preparation before social interactions. So they screen all their calls. They prefer texts over phone calls any day, so they can reply in their own time without seeming rude. Also, it’s easier for us to express ourselves in writing rather than in verbal conversations.
7. How People Enjoy Small Talks
If we want to know you well, we would be more than happy to have a deep, meaningful, and intimate conversation with you over a cup of coffee. There has to be a strong motivation urging us to have a conversation with someone, like discussing business/work, or getting to know our partners better.
Talking just for the sake of killing the silence is not at all appealing to us. People usually engage in small talks to avoid awkward silences. But here’s the thing- silence never makes us feel awkward, rather shallow conversations do.
8. Socializing Just Because There’s Nothing Better To Do
It amazes me how some of my friends dread the idea of spending Friday/Saturday night at home. They associate homely weekends with becoming “old” and “boring” and drag themselves to a social event just for the sake of it.
What’s the point in spending your precious time with people you don’t know well or particularly like?
The entire week, we look forward to spending some me-time, when we can finally forget about the world and focus on the self– hobbies, thoughts and emotions, and personal growth. Honestly, Netflix and Chill sound cooler to me than socializing and networking with random people.
9. “Fun” Parties
Introverts don’t understand how noisy, crazy parties can be “fun” or “energizing” for anyone. If anything, they are exhausting.
No, we aren’t too snobbish to have fun with others. There’s a scientific reason behind why introverts find social interactions so hard. Introverts are very sensitive to external stimuli and easily get overstimulated, resulting in an “introvert hangover”, which leaves them feeling foggy and wrung out.
Also, dancing to loud music without a care in the world doesn’t come to us naturally. Next time you’re at a party and spot a person who says nothing and just observes everything, don’t go and talk to them. Leave them be.
10. Soaking Up The Spotlight
Some people thrive in the spotlight. They feel motivated to show off their talents and crack jokes and interact with the audience.
Introverts prefer to share their ideas from the background. However, shying away from the spotlight doesn’t mean introverts aren’t good at public speaking or leadership positions. Many celebrities, like Emma Watson, identify as introverts. A large percentage of CEOs identify as introverts.
It’s just that the spotlight and the crowds don’t make introverts feel particularly excited and energetic. They don’t revel in the spotlight and enjoy drawing attention to them in the same way extroverts do.
11. Choosing The Company Of Random Humans Instead Of Cute Pets
It is no secret that introverted people love the company of animal friends. They might have the demeanor of a stoic, but deep down they are needy for love and comfort, which pets provide abundantly, without expectations. While human interactions involve expressing through words, something that can drain introverts completely, pets replenish their energy and offer long-term, valuable companionship.
On the rare occasion that I do go out, I always suggest cafes with a pets theme, where you get to play with furry friends. But my extroverted friends prefer places with “good crowds”. I wonder why…