Their sickness saga will now become more detailed and elaborate. They will tell you about their appointments with doctors, hospital visits and treatment, but will never involve you in the process.
You are a heartless person without conscience
Some sociopaths are high-conflict people (HCPs) who are preoccupied with blaming a target for not accepting their dominance. So if, by any chance, you come to find out about the truth, they will make you look like the sociopath with any conscience. They will use your own compassion and empathy against you to claim that you are heartless, thoughtless and selfish for blaming a sick person about lying. Their display of moral outrage will make you doubt yourself once again and reaffirm their position as the victim.
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Even though you may have evidence and you may protest against their deceiving moral outcry, it will only lead to more drama for the sociopath to feed on. Then they will use your own emotions to make you look like a toxic person who doesn’t care about someone suffering from a serious illness. As you start questioning yourself and wonder if anyone can be so vile that they will lie about their own terminal illness, the sociopath will gain ownership and dominance over you once again. Controlling your emotions is the greatest form of ownership for them.
Eventually, you will give in to your emotions and the sociopath will get exactly what they want – care, kindness, attention, sympathy and praise by lying, deceiving and manipulating you. As you start caring for them, they will manipulate you to become their caregiver for a false illness and, in turn, they will now own you.
Coping with the sickness saga
No matter how desperately the sociopath tries to protect their lies, the truth will eventually reveal itself. Your instincts will make you see the warning signs and a sense of betrayal will take over your thoughts and emotions. As you will find the truth hard to believe, you will question them for their lies and yourself for being so naive. But the thing is sociopaths are without conscience. They can do anything they want and they don’t care about you. This is who they are.
If you have personally experienced the sickness saga of a sociopath, then the first thing you need to realize that it’s not your fault. It was them. You just chose to be your best self even though you knew they were not trustworthy. You chose to show care and kindness to a person who claimed to be terminally ill. You’re not stupid. They are toxic. Yes, it will hurt. It will make you feel confused and make you question yourself. But it doesn’t define who you are. It simply defines who they are. You were being mentally and emotionally manipulated. You were being controlled by a sick person and forced to play their sick game.
However, once you start accepting the truth and decide to stay true to yourself, to be as caring, compassionate and empathetic as you are, the confusion will go away. And you will find more clarity and strength. This will help you build a reality where you can finally see the sociopath for who they are. This will enable you to identify sociopaths in future, and steer clear from them. This will empower you to build meaningful relationships with caring and compassionate people who will have as much to offer to you, as you will have to offer to them.