The Secret Of Platonic Relationships

the secret of platonic relationships

My friendship with Thomas Steinbeck, the son of Nobel Prize-winning author John Steinbeck, was happily platonic. We were so close that we were almost like siblings, sharing in our joys, fears, and creative endeavors. Our love was unconditional, but we never crossed the line into intimacy.

Thomas and I adored one another’s company. We were happy together. We laughed together. At times, we were possessive over our company for one another, and when not together we knew telepathically what the other was feeling. In a sense, we were like one another’s “life-preserver,” and after his passing, I felt as if I was drowning in sorrow. He was my anchor to my creative voice. Together, we both turned pain into art, he through fiction, and me through poetry and memoir. Losing him and our platonic relationship was akin to losing a close family member.

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Blackstone, J. (2002). Living Intimately. London, UK: Watkins Publishing.

Matousek, M. (2013). “The eros of friendship: What to do with platonic passion?” Psychology Today. May 12.

Written by: Diana Raab, MFA, Ph.D
Originally appeared on:Psychology Today
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Diana Raab Ph.D.

Diana Raab, Ph.D. is a memoirist, poet, essayist, blogger, and speaker. She presents workshops in writing for healing and transformation. She has a Ph.D. in Psychology with a concentration in Transpersonal Psychology with a research focus on the healing and transformative powers of memoir writing. Her educational background also includes health administration, nursing, and creative writing. Diana has been writing since an early age. As an only child of two immigrant parents, she spent a lot of time crafting letters and chronicling her life in a journal. As an advocate of personal writing, Diana facilitates workshops in writing for transformation and empowerment, focusing on journaling, poetry and memoir writing. She believes in the importance of writing to achieve wholeness and interconnectedness while encouraging the ability to unleash the true voice of the inner self.View Author posts