The Pain Of Being In Love With Someone You Can Never Be With

The Pain Of Being In Love With Someone You Can Never Be With

There is, another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. It’s the love one feels when one loves someone he or she can never have.

Love is a tricky thing. It varies in intensity and in the specificity of emotions. It is sometimes the most beautiful thing in the world and, at other times, it’s the most horrid thing we’ve ever come face-to-face with.

It’s odd how one thing could be the cause of so many contrary feelings. But that’s what makes love so beautiful – it’s the closest thing to perfection that exists in the world, the only thing that can easily and comfortably encompass both good and evil, beautiful and ugly.

It’s the closest thing to a flawless whole that man has ever claimed to have been part of.

When we think of love, we think of the happy kind of love, the kind that is the beginning of something beautiful – something that breathes life.

There is, however, another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. It’s the love one feels when one loves someone he or she can never and will never have.

The Pain Of Being In Love With Someone You Can Never Be With

It’s the kind of love that doesn’t signal the beginning of something beautiful, but rather the end of something that might have been beautiful, but will never amount to anything more than what it is.

Contrary to popular belief or popular wishful thinking, love doesn’t always end happily. It doesn’t always result in the joining of two people, the fusing of two lives into one.

Sometimes, on rare occasions, it results in the wedging apart of the two who love each other the most. You can love someone with all your soul and never get a chance to be with that person. Even worse, you can know that you love him or her, understanding there is no possibility that the two of you will ever be together.

Some people cannot and will not ever end up together, even if they do love each other. It’s a sad truth, but a truth, nonetheless.

The fact is, love is not enough. All those fairytales, all those stories and movies you’ve heard and watched growing up, lied to you. Love is never enough because love is not rational.

You hear that love is irrational all the time, yet you still hear the same people saying that love is enough to keep two people together.

Unfortunately, we live in a world governed by rationality, and while love may be irrational, and we may manage to make it work for some time, the real world always catches up with us and our irrational illusions dissipate into thin air.

Then we are left with reality and reality doesn’t always reason the way lovers do.

Some people don’t work out together. They have habits or beliefs that make it impossible to co-habitate with the person they love. There isn’t a couple out there that loves every little thing about one another.

Sure, they may find certain quirks cute or unique, but they don’t love them; they simply accept them. There are some people who have such habits, tendencies, or thinking patterns that really do make them incompatible with the other person.


    • I was once in love with someone who was not the appropriate person for me to dedicate my life to and was scheduled to leave and go back to a foreign country in a few months. I was happy being in love with her, and would have been happy in my warm loving thoughts of her when she left, until she noticed that I was in love with her and decided to make it serious and then decided not to leave. It eventually left me torn and I broke up with great difficulty, but stayed available to her until she found someone else to break the spell. It would have been much better if she hadn’t noticed. Treasure being in love. It doesn’t need to kill you.

    • The Minds Journal, yes! maybe in other aspects of life i have better things coming but when it comes to love, i don't think so….maybe love is not for me even though modesty aside there are quite a few who are interested and have shown & said their love and care to me. It's not easy to love someone who have so much impact in my life ,who have opened my heart once again, made me feel loved and taught me how to love again knowing from day one that the person is taken & committed already but i'm ok and good loving the person secretly. That's life. Ofcourse i don't want to ruin an existing relatioship. I've been in that kind of situation years ago so i know how hard & painful if somebody steals the love of your life.