One thing that the INFJs do better than most is that they plan. One thing that they don’t do so well is adapt. Coping with changes gets a tad bit difficult for the INFJ types because they have elaborate plans which take into consideration every minor detail. But these plans are about something in the future, and we know that a lot can happen between now and then. And when something that can cause their planning to sink occurs, they find it hard to be accepting of such changes. Hence, they tend to get a bit stubborn which can lead to further problems.
Also, INFJs don’t handle stress as well as the others. Whereas there are some personality types who thrive on stress. For some people, stress can be a major driving force that not only allows them to reach their goals but to also thrive. In comparison, INFJs find themselves reeling from the stress. They get overwhelmed and try to find unhealthy outlets to this stress, such as binge eating and indulging etc. stress also makes them very short tempered and easily irritated. Worst case scenario, stress either makes them offensive towards the rest of the world, or defensive to the extent that they withdraw within themselves.
Another misconception is that because INFJs are so good at handling their emotions, they can never get angry. But in reality, they do get angry and it is worse than being angered easily. Because they have patience they usually react in a more composed manner than most, but this doesn’t mean that they don’t feel the frustration at all. It just keeps piling up inside them, and one day it all comes crashing down, even though the occasion might not have warranted such an outburst.
The INFJs achieve whatever they have set their heart on. They always strive to be better than the best, in anything they attempt, be it in their professional life or personality. But the problems start when they begin holding others to these impossibly high standards. Not the entire world, but just people they consider very close. This makes way for eventual disappointment and then they start questioning the foundations of their relationships. In almost all the cases the things are not as bad as they perceive.
Inability to be diplomatic:
An INFJ personality type would never look for a politer or neutral way to say things. They are blunt and straightforward. Though these are positive qualities, but in the case of the INFJ personality type, the case is usually more along the lines of too-much-of-a-good-thing.
As mentioned before, there are a lot of reasons why the INFJs are wary of the world. And when someone gives them the legitimate reason to be defensive they do so without abandon. They take things to the extreme and completely cut off contact with people who have hurt them. Although you’d think that it is the correct thing to do, the INFJ do it more often and more intensely than is normal for our functioning as social beings.