The traits of the covert narcissist can be obvious often being displayed quite openly but in contrast, the traits of the covert narcissist can be very difficult to spot.
Below are some signs that you may be dealing with a covert narcissist…
1. Always plays the victim wanting your sympathy
2. Quiet Smugness/Superiority
4. Extreme selfishness
5. Constant craving for acknowledgment
7. Judgmental and critical
8. Lacks empathy
9. Highly sensitive being unable to handle criticism
10. Difficulties with relationships
11. Gets bored easily
12. Switches off rather than listen intently to others
It can be difficult not to get sucked into a narcissist’s web of deceit and feel sorry for them when they play the victim card. The narcissist is looking for a reaction from you. Don’t feed the monster!
When they fail to get their desired reaction from you, they will take a step back and look for their supply elsewhere. Be aware of the traits before it’s too late and don’t let yourself be controlled by someone whose ultimate goal is to control not only your mind but your life.
“Covert Narcissists, like professional actors, are talented at pretending to be someone they are not. If people could see behind their charming and likable “masks” they wouldn’t be able to steal, exploit and manipulate their unsuspecting victims.” – Ross Rosenberg
Here’s an interesting video that you may find helpful:
Getting yourself free from the evil clutches of the covert narcissist can be very difficult as it will take you a lot of time to realize what they truly are: monsters in disguise. They will drain you emotionally, mentally, and physically and they will not let you even after they find a new target.
They may seem to support and help you, but they are only tricking you into believing that they want the best for you. When in reality all they want is to control you and your life, until and unless you walk away.
Written by Anne McCrea
(From Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse, Shattering the Illusion, now available on Amazon)