The 8 Most Hurtful Sides of Love

 / 

The 8 Most Hurtful Sides of Love

Love is an eternal journey with shades of pain and phases of ecstasy. Here are most hurtful sides of love.

โ€œThis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.โ€
โ€• Alfred Tennyson

โ€˜He loves me…He loves me not!โ€™ No.

Petals arenโ€™t the really best way to help you understand the feelings of your partner or love-interest

Complicated as it might sound, love is not that hard to decipher only if you understand the basic differences in various types of love.

Often, we hear our partners or love-interests or ex-s say, โ€˜I love you but I am not in love with you.โ€™ What does this mean? Isnโ€™t โ€˜loveโ€™ supposed to be the same?

The answer is no. Love exists in various forms and we experience multiple forms of love even if we are committed to one partner.

โ€œโ€ฆwere all about love and lovers, damsels in distress swooning in lonely lodges, postillions slaughtered all along the road, horses rode to death on every page, gloomy forests, troubles of the heart, vows, sobs, tears, kisses, rowing-boats in the moonlight, nightingales in the grove, gentlemen brave as lions and gentle as lambs, too virtuous to be true, invariably well-dressed, and weeping like fountains..โ€ – Madame Bovary (1856)

The conventional form of love as we all know is about two human beings loving each other, reciprocating each other and staying together as a family.

Itโ€™s definitely a wonderful feeling to love someone and getting loved back with the same frequency or perhaps even more.

But that’s all about the Love we talk about in general, the one we read about in fairytale books. But love is something more. It is not always reciprocated, and it does has different and often hurtful sides to it too.

It is also said that each one of us, fall at least once in every kind of love. .. with different or the same partner.

Here are the least talked about – the not so rosy sides of love

(1) The Universal Love:

โ€œHe’s not your prince charming if he doesn’t make sure you know that you’re his princess.โ€ โ€• Demi Lovato.

Universal Love is the conventional form of love where two people love each other in spite of the differences they have.

They live together, get married, have a family; they are soulmates. In this type of love, the lovers are their each otherโ€™s world.

This sort of relationship makes both the partners feel secure, happy and help them in their personal development.

They inspire and encourage each other and never leave no matter what happens. Such a form of love is the most cherished one. Of course, we all deserve to be loved back by the one who we love!

Read When We Fall In Love, This Is What Actually Happens

(2) Passionate Love:

โ€œThey say a good love is one that sits you down, gives you a drink of water, and pats you on top of the head. But I say a good love is one that casts you into the wind, sets you ablaze, makes you burn through the skies and ignite the night like a phoenix; the kind that cuts you loose like a wildfire and you can’t stop running simply because you keep on burning everything that you touch! I say that’s a good love; one that burns and flies, and you run with it!โ€โ€• C. JoyBell C.

Passionate love is loving someone fiercely with everything you have. It can just be limited to doing everything to make the other person feel happy and to protecting them or it can be sexual too.

It can even be both. Passionate love is driven by emotions and often biased and blinded. The other person might or might not love back.

It is for this reason, a sense of insecurity works at the deep core of a passionate lover. Itโ€™s the fear of not getting loved back.

When slowly the person gets drained away by loving passionately, you go through a period of the trauma of depression.

Read The Kind Of Lover You Are, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

(3) Unrequited Love:

โ€œDumbledore watched her fly away, and as her silvery glow faded he turned back to Snape, and his eyes were full of tears.

“After all this time?”

“Always,” said Snape.โ€

โ€• J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter, and the Deathly Hallows.

It hurts when one doesn’t get loved back by the person we love. But that doesnโ€™t stop us from loving back. Unrequited love is that kind of love when we love the person who does not love us back.

You are just happy to be in love with your beloved; you do suffer from this lack of reciprocation but your feelings are so strong that you can never let go of your love.

(4) Platonic Love:

โ€œWe ought to have lived in mental communion, and no more.โ€

โ€• Thomas Hardy, Jude the Obscure

You probably donโ€™t even know the person you love; that person might exist in real world or can be any fictional character.

You love the person and you think you are loved back. Itโ€™s all in your psyche. You cherish platonic love for that entity and you are happy about it.

(5) Practical Love:

‘Itโ€™s not a lack of love but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.โ€™ โ€“ Friedrich Nietzsche.

Practical love is the one where two people love each other out of responsibilities. You respect your partner for what they are.

This love springs from a sharing of mutual interests and goodwill. The love comes from coexistence and happens mainly to married couples.

Sometimes passionate love when reciprocated may become practical love. Universal love can also be merged with practical love.

(6) Sapiosexual Love:

โ€œThere were plenty of fishes in the pond,
yet i fell in love with a crocodile.โ€ 
โ€• Anjum Choudhary

Sapiosexual love is where you love someone because of their intellect. You love the way they do their research or perform.

It is their cognizance which creates a strong platonic and sexual attraction towards them.

(7) Infidel Love:

โ€œI know I am but summer to your heart, and not the full four seasons of the year.โ€ 
โ€• Edna St. Vincent Millay

This is one type of love where you love someone who is not recognized in the society as your better-half.

You are secretive about it and you donโ€™t wish to disclose this to your partner because you are in a hetero normative relationship where only two people can be in a relationship and itโ€™s against the ethics to love someone.

You may or may not love your partner who is known to others as your better-half.

Read The 7 Types of Love

(8) Polyamorous Love:

โ€œSo, a little advice. Relax. You’re not filling a job position. You’re looking for a pleasant acquaintance.. who might become a good friend… who turns out to be attractive to your senses… and a rewarding lover… then a committed partner whose heart will not stray. If you don’t see those signposts and in that order, then you’re probably on the wrong road and getting more lost with every step.โ€ โ€• Anthony D. Ravenscroft, Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless and Hopeful: An Introduction to Polyamory.

Polyamorous love is the kind of love where you have multiple partners and all of them are okay with the fact that you have other lovers. They might or might not know about your other lovers.

Thereโ€™s too much hatred in this world. Letโ€™s love and letโ€™s be happy about it.


The 8 Most Hurtful Sides of Love
Most Hurtful Sides of Love

— Share —

— About the Author —

Leave a Reply



Up Next

What is a Trophy Husband In Today’s Relationship Dynamics?

Signs of a Trophy Husband: Exploring Modern Masculinity

Most of us are aware of the term โ€œtrophy wifeโ€. But have you heard about a โ€œtrophy husbandโ€? It is a somewhat new term that is a gender-swapped version of the more popular concept of โ€œtrophy wifeโ€. 

In today’s evolving society, where gender roles are constantly being redefined, there’s a rising trend of trophy husbands. These men are not only eye-catching companions but also possess qualities that make them desirable partners. 

Today, let us explore this fascinating concept and understand what is a trophy husband,  the signs to look for, why being a trophy husband is exhausting, and the potential issues that can arise in relationships with them.

What is a Trophy Husband?



Up Next

Feeling Like Roommates In A Marriage? 7 Signs Of Roommate Syndrome And What You Can Do To Change That

Feeling Like Roommates In A Marriage? Signs Spark Is Gone

Are you feeling like roommates in a marriage? You know, that sinking feeling when you realize the spark has fizzled, and your relationship has become more about paying bills and coordinating schedules than love and connection.

The thing is, roommate syndrome is more common than you think, and many couples face this, after being together for a long time. When you are in the roommate phase of a relationship, you might ask yourself why and when the romance disappeared or if you’re both just pretending to be happy.

But that might not be the case. In this article, we are going to look at what is roommate syndrome, the signs of roommate syndrome, and how to deal with roommate syndrome, so that you stop feeling like roommates in a marriage.

So, let’s get started, shall we?



Up Next

Am I In Love Or Just Experiencing Limerence? 5 Signs To Look For

Limerence vs Love? Signs That Differ From True Love

Are you head over heels for somebody or have you plummeted into limerence? Learn the distinction between limerence vs love to make sure that your romantic bond doesnโ€™t turn into a serious addiction.

Limerence is a psychological state that can leave you feeling exhilarated but confused. This state isn’t just another word for love. It has unique properties that differ limerence vs love.

What is limerence vs love?

In simpler words, limerence in a relationship when someone is madly in love with another person. So much so that it affects their mindset and they canโ€™t think of anything else but him/her.

It might not seem too different from love.



Up Next

8 Ways To Upgrade Your Relationship

Ways To Upgrade Your Relationship

Do you feel like your relationship has lost that spark from before? If you answered yes, then you should know that many couples go through this, which is why it’s important to know how to improve your relationship. This article is going to talk about how to strengthen your relationship and upgrade your relationship.

It seems like it should be natural to treat our partners with love, consideration, and respect. Yet, for many people in long-term relationships, the warmth and kindness that were present in the early days of dating can fade over time.

Most people treat their partners with the utmost respect and kindness in the courting stage. The relationship probably wouldnโ€™t have progressed if they hadnโ€™t. Why do so many people present the best version of themselves early on, and over time, treat their beloved partners with disrespect, di



Up Next

5 Ways To Rekindle The Spark In Your Relationship

Ways To Rekindle The Spark In Your Relationship

If you feel that the spark in your relationship is gone, then let me tell you something – you can rekindle the spark in your relationship again! Now the question is, how to reignite the spark in your relationship? How can you make your relationship feel like the olden days again? Let’s find out!

Remember the feelings you experienced when you first started dating your spouse or partner? Perhaps you felt excitement, attraction, and anticipation? As the relationship has progressed, has it been difficult to maintain those initial feelings?

Once lifeโ€™s responsibilities, careers, kids, and the passing of time are added to the mix, that initial spark can easily diminish if we donโ€™t keep it stoked.

Fortunately



Up Next

How To Deal With Your Partner’s Obsessive Ex? 4 Tips For Successfully Handling One

Deal With Your Partner's Obsessive Ex: Tips And Tricks

Have you ever had to deal with an obsessive ex? Moreover, have you ever had to deal with your partner’s obsessive and toxic ex? If you have, you already know how disturbing it is to go through this. This article is going to talk about some of the best ways to deal with a toxic ex or deal with your partner’s toxic ex.

My friend is happily married to a man who has a child. He is a devoted and loving father who sought full custody of the children; the court denied his petition.

His two children are living with their narcissistic mother who actively alienates the children from their father. His ex was obsessed with him during their short and turbulent relationship. She was deceitful, abusive, controlling, and highly destructive. They hooked up while drunk.



Up Next

Are You Hesitant To Commit? 6 Warning Signs Of Lack Of Commitment In A Relationship And How To Navigate Them

Signs of Lack of Commitment in a Relationship: Red Flags

Do you always find yourself in short-term, casual relationships? Does the idea of committing in a relationship make you nervous? Are you showing signs of lack of commitment in a relationship?

Commitment issues can be a significant barrier to building a healthy and fulfilling partnership, affecting both individuals involved. Today, let us explore what are commitment issues, the signs that may indicate their presence, the underlying causes of commitment issues, and effective strategies to overcome them.

By understanding these factors, you can empower yourself to navigate the complexities of relationships with greater confidence and clarity.

Are You Afraid of Commitment?