Love is an eternal journey with shades of pain and phases of ecstasy. Here are most hurtful sides of love.
“Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.”
― Alfred Tennyson
‘He loves me…He loves me not!’ No.
Petals aren’t the really best way to help you understand the feelings of your partner or love-interest
Complicated as it might sound, love is not that hard to decipher only if you understand the basic differences in various types of love.
Often, we hear our partners or love-interests or ex-s say, ‘I love you but I am not in love with you.’ What does this mean? Isn’t ‘love’ supposed to be the same?
The answer is no. Love exists in various forms and we experience multiple forms of love even if we are committed to one partner.
“…were all about love and lovers, damsels in distress swooning in lonely lodges, postillions slaughtered all along the road, horses ridden to death on every page, gloomy forests, troubles of the heart, vows, sobs, tears, kisses, rowing-boats in the moonlight, nightingales in the grove, gentlemen brave as lions and gentle as lambs, too virtuous to be true, invariably well-dressed, and weeping like fountains..” – Madame Bovary (1856)
The conventional form of love as we all know is about two human beings loving each other, reciprocating each other and staying together as a family.
It’s definitely a wonderful feeling to love someone and getting loved back with the same frequency or perhaps even more.
But that’s all about the Love we talk about in general, the one we read about in fairytale books. But love is something more. It is not always reciprocated, and it does has different and often hurtful sides to it too.
It is also said that each one of us, fall at least once in every kind of love. .. with different or the same partner.
Here are the least talked about – the not so rosy sides of love
(1) The Universal Love:
“He’s not your prince charming if he doesn’t make sure you know that you’re his princess.” ― Demi Lovato.
Universal Love is the conventional form of love where two people love each other in spite of the differences they have.
They live together, get married, have a family; they are soulmates. In this type of love, the lovers are their each other’s world.
This sort of relationship makes both the partners feel secure, happy and help them in their personal development.
They inspire and encourage each other and never leave no matter what happens. Such a form of love is the most cherished one. Of course, we all deserve to be loved back by the one who we love!
(2) Passionate Love:
“They say a good love is one that sits you down, gives you a drink of water, and pats you on top of the head. But I say a good love is one that casts you into the wind, sets you ablaze, makes you burn through the skies and ignite the night like a phoenix; the kind that cuts you loose like a wildfire and you can’t stop running simply because you keep on burning everything that you touch! I say that’s a good love; one that burns and flies, and you run with it!”― C. JoyBell C.
Passionate love is loving someone fiercely with everything you have. It can just be limited to doing everything to make the other person feel happy and to protecting them or it can be sexual too.
It can even be both. Passionate love is driven by emotions and often biased and blinded. The other person might or might not love back.
It is for this reason, a sense of insecurity works at the deep core of a passionate lover. It’s the fear of not getting loved back.
When slowly the person gets drained away by loving passionately, you go through a period of the trauma of depression.
(3) Unrequited Love:
“Dumbledore watched her fly away, and as her silvery glow faded he turned back to Snape, and his eyes were full of tears.
“After all this time?”
“Always,” said Snape.”
― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter, and the Deathly Hallows.
It hurts when one doesn’t get loved back by the person we love. But that doesn’t stop us from loving back. Unrequited love is that kind of love when we love the person who does not love us back.