The Thanksgiving Challenge That Will Improve Your Relationship

The Thanksgiving Challenge

The Thanksgiving Challenge

Step 1: For seven days, mindfully notice your tendency to criticize.

When those moments happen, focus your attention to notice what you have and what others contribute to your life. Search for the small things you can admire and appreciate in yourself and your partner. Maybe this is noticing:

  • Your partner taking out the trash
  • Listening to you with their full attention
  • Giving you a kiss randomly

Or

  • Your ability to turn towards your partner during conflict
  • Your ability to ask open-ended questions that allow you to see different parts of your partner
  • Your ability to help out more when your partner is stressed

Step 2: For the entire week, offer your partner at least one genuine compliment each day.

The compliments I give include the event I noticed and a characteristic I love about my partner. It goes something like this, “I love how you smiled at the little boy in the stroller at the grocery store. You’re such a compassionate and kind person.” As you are doing this, notice how it impacts your relationship, your partner and yourself. Don’t be phony and make things up. Notice the positive qualities of your partner. Rejoice in them. They are there!

As you take on this thanksgiving challenge, you’ll receive an amazing gift. You will be less critical of yourself. You will begin to be kind to yourself and over time will relish in your own accomplishments and the beauty of the relational gifts you offer the loved ones of your life.

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The more you can embrace the spirit of thanksgiving and the profound presence of praise and admiration, the more fulfilling your relationship will be.


This article was originally published at Healthy Relationships with Kyle Benson.
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Kyle Benson

I've had the privilege of working with men and women on a wide range of relationship issues. I've helped individuals:Leave toxic relationships to find a healthy relationship that makes them feel calm, grateful for the person in their life, and deeply valued by their partner Close the emotional distance between partners so they feel deeply connected to each otherResolve relationship conflict, leading the couple to become closer and more loving than they ever thought imaginable Remove sexual anxiety to create intensely passionate and longer-lasting sexUse problems in the relationship as catalysts to help individuals grow into their highest potential (and become more awesome lovers)Our coaching sessions are tailored towards reaching solutions that improve your relationship quickly. Read more about my coaching programmes here, Relationship Coaching or Email me at Kyle@kylebenson.netView Author posts