TED Talk 7. 6 Steps to Improve Your Emotional Intelligence | Ramona Hacker
Ramona Hacker provides us six steps to improve our emotional intelligence in this Ted Talk. She reflects on how she overcame a major emotional burnout for herself. The six steps to improve emotional intelligence according to her are as follows:
- Build awareness to a level of unconscious competence
- Differentiate and analyze emotions
- Accept and appreciate emotions as signals
- Reflect and find the origin
- Handle the emotions
- Then handle the emotions of others
TED Talk 8. How We’ve Been Misled by Emotional Intelligence | Kris Girrell
Author of A Married Man’s Survival Guide and Executive leadership coach – Kris Girrell discusses highly intelligent scientists and emotional intelligence in this TED Talk. He talks about a survey he conducted with a room full of highly intelligent individuals, or ‘a group of Sheldons’ as he frames it. He mentions how leadership is not necessarily connected with high intelligence. His idea of the periodic table of emotions is also a fantastic perspective on the topic of emotional intelligence.
He discusses how ‘the dark night of the soul’ brought about humanity’s sudden awareness of emotion as a surprising yet frightening experience. Girrell shares his personal battle with despair for all of us to reflect on. He takes us through a very deep insight into emotional experience and the significance of emotional intelligence in leadership.
His e-book A Guide to the Periodic Table of Emotions is available on Amazon.
TED Talk 9. The Light and Dark side of Emotional Intelligence | Alison Bacon
Alison Bacon gives an interestingly informative speech on emotional intelligence and the two ways in which it can be utilized – a more positive and constructive way or a negative and manipulative way. She talks about a study at Plymouth University in the UK, where they used virtual reality to test behavior and emotional intelligence.
She stresses on building emotional intelligence among all people. The reason being that there are people out there and among us that tend to use emotional intelligence as a tool in manipulating people to meet their own ends. Having a high level of emotional intelligence can help to counter, deal and manage the behavior of such individuals. Studies have shown that narcissists and psychopaths tend to have a high sense of emotional intelligence.
TED Talk 10. The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage | Susan David
Susan David delivers an inspirational talk on emotional agility and the power of emotional courage. She paints a vivid picture of her emotional intelligence through her personal story of grief and loss, and her radical acceptance of difficult and unpleasant emotions.
She mentions that the accuracy with which people name their emotions and how they deal with it is essential for mining those emotions for data and aligning them with their personal values. So, instead of saying, “I am angry,” replace it with, “I’m noticing that I’m feeling angry.” In aligning values and actions, separating oneself from the emotions to use emotions as data is essential.
Susan David is the author of Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life. Her award winning emotional intelligence book, based on 20 years of research in emotions, helps people in building emotional agility and understanding that emotional intelligence is essential to a successful life.
TED Talk 11. The Three Secrets of Resilient People | Lucy Hone
Lucy Hone shares her compelling personal story of overcoming extreme adversity by using the skills in emotional intelligence she had learned through her 10 year research in resilience. Her message empowers and urges the need for emotional intelligence to be a part of our everyday lives.
After having worked with the US Army on mental resilience training, it is apparent that this speaker is a soldier herself.
The three secrets of resilient people that she mentions are as follows:
- Realization of suffering as a part of life. Understanding and accepting hard times can be tough but it all comes down to how we choose to handle it. We can either wallow in the pain or take the opportunity to heal, learn and live through it with resilience.
- Selective attention to what is changeable and what is not. This is not a means to diminish the pain. Instead, it is a practice to approach the situation with good intentions. It is looking for social support in hard times. It is gathering the benefits in any situation.
- Is what I’m doing helping or harming me?’ It is everyone’s responsibility to be mindful in one’s behavior in times of suffering and to keep in mind that what we choose is the only thing that will help us come out of it or at least handle it. Emotional intelligence is understanding this awareness is vital for growth.