4 Techniques To Control and Disarm a Manipulator

4 Techniques To Control and Disarm a Manipulator

Between a parent and a child: “If you obey me, I will love you.”
Between spouses: “If you keep me happy, I will stay with you.”
Between a boss and employee: “If you never upset me, I will keep paying you.”

Related: over-controlling Parents: The Burden Of Being Over Controlled As A Child

We can see how manipulation thrives because each person is upholding his or her respective end of this distorted agreement, and how the only way for the manipulated person to come out from under the thumb of the manipulator is for her to realize she doesn’t need the thing that is being leveraged anymore.

So in other words, as a grown child, the love and approval we crave is already inside us. As an employee, we can find another job if the demands become unreasonable. As a spouse, we don’t need our partner’s approval in order to feel good about ourselves.

Related: 5 Hidden Signs, Your Good Guy Is Actually Manipulating You

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Techniques of Disarming a Manipulator

How to disarm a manipulator?

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