5) Reaching your goals
You might think that you really know your goals and how to achieve them. The hardest thing about picking a goal is that once you pick it, you will have to commit yourself to do it. This scares many people because once they commit, they have to stop talking about their goals and start working towards them. According to Psychologist Linda Sapadin reports that saying your goals out loud “focuses your attention, reinforces the message, controls your runaway emotions and screens out distractions.”
Jerry A. Schmidt (an Assistant Professor of Counselor Education at
the University of Denver and a psychologist in private practice.) in his paper Cognitive Restructuring: The Art of Talking To Yourself says “As You Think So Shall You Feel”, because there are close connections between thoughts and feelings. A negative thought immerses your brain in unpleasant fantasies and vice versa when you have positive thoughts.
The truth is that you need to say your goals out loud every day so that you don’t lose your way by forgetting who you are and what you want. Speak them out loud many times daily and your picture of achieving these goals will become clearer to you. This will help your brain engage in positive and pleasant fantasies as a result you wish to increase its frequency. You may use internal self-payoffs as reinforcers for positive thought and self-talk according to Jerry Schmidt.
How often do you engage in talking to yourself? Are you ready to reap the above brain benefits of self-talk?