Taking a Closer Look at Letting Go

Taking Closer Look at Letting Go

We don’t need to work more, we need to work less to let go.

Yet before that strategy can pay off for us, we need to let go of something other than specific tasks or activities. 

  • We need to let go of the thoughts that run counter to an ease-filled, satisfying experience.
  • We need to let go of self-doubt.  We need to let go of self-condemnation.
  • We need to let go of blame, both of ourselves and others.
  • We need to let go of the belief that we have to prove our worthiness in order to receive anything good in life, and
  • We need to let go of the belief that struggle is the way to prove it.

I could go on and on about the kinds of thoughts we need to let go of, but I’m sure you get the idea. The point here is the understanding that letting go of tasks, activities or people, from within a consciousness of struggle or frustration, will provide only temporary relief.  Unless we change the way we think, we’ll simply recreate the same kinds of circumstances that are currently frustrating us.

To experience the kind of ease we long for, we have to make a firm and loving commitment to shifting our consciousness.  We have to change the way we think and imagine and believe, change what we assume to be true of ourselves and change what we believe is possible for us to experience. This requires focus and effort, but it doesn’t require struggle. As with anything else, the struggle only gets in the way.

The key is to take on these changes from an underlying intention to love ourselves through the process, and that means we start focusing on feeling as good as we can, moment to moment.  We explore and experiment with perspectives that are supportive and encouraging, we learn how to soothe ourselves when we wobble and we look for ways to have fun along the way.

And as we continue to cultivate a loving, supportive, peaceful and optimistic consciousness, it becomes easier and easier to let go of thoughts of worry and struggle.  Because we’re now focusing elsewhere, they no longer have the same strength they had before; our attention doesn’t get automatically pulled into them.

Ease of letting go

Letting go becomes something we naturally do when unhelpful thoughts arise, rather than a dramatic ritual of release or an impatient demand we place on ourselves to stop thinking those kinds of thoughts.  And with each letting go of a struggle- or fear-based thought, we create a spaciousness of mind that invites inspiration and possibility into our lives. We flow in our own current of life-giving energy.

As our lives become more gracious, more delightful and more ease-filled, we understand more deeply than ever the powerful creative force of our own consciousness. We realize that choosing loving thoughts is neither naïve nor foolish nor fake.

It is the most responsible thing we can do to create the kind of world we want to live in.

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Written by: Suzanne Eder 

Originally appeared on: Suzanne Eder 
Republished with permission.

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Suzanne Eder

Suzanne Eder is an award-winning writer, transformational teacher and personal mentor, helping people create lives they truly love through what she calls the Alchemy of Self Love. She has a unique talent for articulating teachings about how to create your own reality in a fresh way that helps people embrace and embody what they have only understood intellectually. Suzanne lives what she teaches and is, in the words of best-selling author Tama Kieves, “the real deal.” She was a featured speaker at the 2015 TEDxWilmington conference and her popular talk, The Dark Side of Self Improvement, is available on YouTube. Visit her at suzanneeder.com.View Author posts