6 Things That Make Men Suddenly Lose Interest When Dating

men lose interest

No, it’s not him. It’s you. You are probably the reason why he will lose interest just when you start feeling a connection. All of a sudden he starts getting cold and distant and you end up wondering what the hell just happened? There are several reasons that a man may move away from new budding relationship.

Hi, this is Nicole Elissa with Commitment Connection.

Today, I’m going to share six things that make men lose interest while getting to know you.

If you’ve met a guy or a man who you really like and you want to avoid him losing interest then I invite you to read until the very end because it will really help you avoid subconsciously pushing him away.

I’ve heard from a lot of women who have regret because they did something unconsciously that led to the man leaving them.

Even though I believe that all things are perfect, it’s important to really forgive yourself and to create conscious practices that will help you create the sort of attraction and that will inspire a man to be interested in you by being who you are.

Now, I’m going to share six things that make men lose interest.

Number two and six are my favorite and I believe that they are really important to work on.

Make sure you read until the very end so you get the opportunity to create, cultivate, and enhance the attraction that’s currently going on between you.


1. Your self-respect is missing.

The first thing that makes men lose interest is when they notice a woman that doesn’t have self-respect.

This is something that men notice on a subtle level sometimes when you demonstrate that you’re lacking boundaries when it comes to how you desire to be treated.

This is where it’s important for you to really honor your woman’s intuition.

If you really feel that somebody is not treating you right or they are lying to you, it’s important to stand your ground and to really honor what you known to be true and not lie to yourself.

I have seen that when we believe that there’s not a lot of possibilities or a lack of potential suitors, we can lie to ourselves and say,

“Well, this guy is perfect.”

“This guy is amazing.”

Even though you might notice that he’s not necessarily treating you with the highest standards possible.

So when you realize that there is something that is trespassing a boundary, it’s important to talk about it and set boundaries with love for yourself and for the person in front of you and really communicate.

Men love a woman who really respects and honors herself.

When you showcase that with love, it’s a big turn-on for men. So it is important to honor your boundaries, know them and share them.

When a man sees that you are lacking self-respect, then that makes him lose interest.


2. You project your insecurities on him.

The second thing that makes a man lose interest are projections.

If you don’t take the time to really understand your feelings and emotions and understand where certain feelings and emotions come from, you might project insecurities on him from the very get-go. This creates a barrier where he cannot really feel you or sense you.

It doesn’t feel safe for him to come in because you’re not fully seeing him clearly.
This leads me to the third thing that makes men lose interest which is related.


3. You have unhealed patterns and past relationships.

This is when you have unhealed patterns or you have unhealed past relationships that you haven’t really fully healed or made peace with.

Those projections can be so strong that when a man is coming at you with genuine intentions— all you have are walls and fears.

You cannot see him clearly because you haven’t really healed or processed those past experiences.

This makes him lose interest because it’s a losing battle for him.

You’re not really seeing him.

You’re seeing a bunch of other people who you didn’t like where things didn’t really work out.

It doesn’t feel good, right?

5 Things Men Think About Women (But Won’t Say Out Loud)

5 Things Men Think About Women (But Won’t Say Out Loud)

In a desperate effort to understand what men think about women, you might fantasize about swinging a hammer at a man’s head, cracking it open, and watching in awe as his innermost thoughts spill onto the floor.

[Please don’t do this. There are better ways.]

It can be extremely frustrating not knowing what men think about women… or what they think about you in particular.

You can drive yourself crazy replaying conversations and situations in your head…

You: Hey baby…whatcha thinking about?

Him: Mm. Nothing.

You: [later] What does that MEAN, “nothing??!” No one thinks about nothing!!


If the male mind is as puzzling to you as a Rubik’s Cube, you’re going to love this video and article.

In today’s video, I’m going to give you what men think about women in five easy bite-sized nuggets. Now, I’m betraying my people a bit, because these are things that men are thinking, but in no way want you ladies to know they’re thinking them.

These are the things that will get us kicked, punched, and generally put on your shit list.

So don’t tell them I told, you, ‘kay? Thanks.

Once you know the deeper psychological reasons behind why men think the way we do…and what men think about women… it’s like discovering a secret door into your guy’s brain.

There’s plenty of benefit for you once you know these five secrets men think about.

Knowing what men think about women can save you the agony of getting sucked into a toxic relationship because you’ll be on top of what’s going on in his crazy twisted head and can get out before you get hurt.

Even better:

It can allow you to relax and leave space for men to truly be themselves. Once you can let go of trying to be a mindreader and figure out what’s going on in that 8-pound hunk of thinking muscle, you change as a romantic partner. You’re cooler and less stressed.

That will make any man uncontrollably addicted to you.

Who doesn’t want that, right?

Check it out and leave me your feedback below!

Your Coach,

Adam LoDolce


P.S. – Are you tired of relationships that end up going nowhere? My Casual to Committed program may be exactly what you’re looking for.

Summary: What Men Think About Women Isn’t Always Earth-Shattering

Here’s the Catch 22. Women struggle to understand what men think about women…and sometimes waste a lot of energy trying to guess or make their dudes tell them.

What are you really thinking? Not “nothing.” Tell me. TELL MEEEEEE!

Guys hate this. They cannot stand a woman poking at them to “talk about their feelings.” And yet, many of us suck at doing so. We know you’d leave us alone if we were better communicators, and yet we don’t know how to be.

And here’s a secret: a lot of the time we really are thinking nothing. I mean, not 100% black hole or anything, but do you really want us to say well, I was thinking that I needed to go home and do laundry or I was regretting eating that bean burrito last night.

Sometimes we’re embarrassed that we aren’t thinking something profound that we could proudly share with you, so we say nothing.

Hey, it’s better than lying and saying, oh baby, I was thinking about how much I utterly adore you.

C’mon. You don’t want us telling you what you think you want to hear, do you? Wouldn’t you rather we be honest, even if we have nothing of consequence on the brain?

And sometimes we’re thinking something that is going to piss you off. Truly.

The whole does my butt look fat thing? There’s no winning that one. So if we know what’s good for us, we’ll keep our big traps shut.

Still, you asked, so I’m going to tell you what men think about women…even if it pisses you off.

So now let’s look at what men think about women, but won’t say out loud.

1. Why is She So Emotional?

You cry when the grandpa hugs the kid on the toilet paper commercial.

You rage like crazy when we forget to put the toilet seat down and you fall in at night.

You coo and talk baby talk to puppies.

It’s true; sometimes we just don’t get why you ladies are so emotional.

Adrianna Mendrek, the lead researcher on a study at the Université de Montréal, found that women were more emotionally reactive to negative images than men, due to their higher levels of estrogen.

Men, on the other hand, proved to have a lower sensitivity to negative imagery due to their testosterone.

So is it any wonder we get accused of being insensitive by you? It’s absolutely true! Don’t discount the role of hormones in the emotional reaction to things. You’ve got it and we don’t.

Men look at how women get emotional at something and wonder why because we can’t see ourselves getting emotional about it. You’re sobbing, watching Jack clinging to the piece of wood or whatever Rose is on after the Titanic sinks, and we’re laughing at his blue lips.

Clearly, we are from different planets.

Now if a guy is smart, he will never ask you why you’re so emotional. Yes, some of us are dumb enough to ask are you on your period when you’re extra emotional.

I know, I know. Those guys are jerks. So insensitive.

Just realize: you are like an alien to us. We are fascinated by what makes you tick (just like you are with us). We want to know what angers you and what makes you weep…mainly so we can avoid doing those things.

If you want to know what men think about women, it’s often what’s going through her head? What’s making her have that emotional reaction?

You can share with us why you’re so emotional, or keep us in the dark. Your choice.

5 Reasons Why Men Text You, Instead Of Calling

5 Reasons Why Men Text You, Instead Of Calling

Why Men Text You, Instead of Calling?

“Wanna go out to dinner?”

While texting is a quick and easy way to make plans for dinner and stay in touch during the day, it is also a weak and impersonal form of communication.

So why do men (and women) constantly text instead of calling?

These are some reasons why Men text, instead of calling?

1. It can be a form of casual entertainment, like listening to the radio or watching TV.
2. It is a way to avoid meaningful conversations and emotional involvement.
3. It is the lazy man’s way of navigating a casual relationship.
4. It enables a disingenuous man to conceal his activities and then to suddenly disappear when he has finished toying with your emotions.
5. It insulates the insecure man from his fear of rejection.

Then again, He may not know that texting rubs you the wrong way. It is your responsibility to tell him, “Hey, thanks for texting but would love to hear your voice. Give me a call.”

In the wrong hands, some men texting to bully, dominate and exploit women.


Warning to faint-hearted readers: this true story contains explicit sexting.

The names have been changed to protect the guilty.

Wendy met Kevin on a Christian dating website. He was handsome, smiling and well-groomed. He described himself as a divorced 48-year-old Christian man looking for a Christian woman who would be his best friend and partner in life. Wendy, 51, replied to Kevin’s email, he asked for her phone number, he called her once and he switched to frequent text messages.

Wendy didn’t recognize Kevin when she met him at a restaurant for their first date. He looked ten years older than his online photos, twenty pounds heavier and his hair was thinner. But he was still handsome and there was instant chemistry between them—and so she dismissed his deception.

Kevin presented himself as a devout Christian. He talked about doing his “personal work” after his divorce. He interjected scriptures into their conversation to back up a moral point. He said he was a teacher for a divorce recovery program for single men and women at his church for the past eight years.

After their first date, Kevin stepped up his pursuit. He texted Wendy early every morning, “Good morning, precious, have a blessed day.” He texted sweet nothings throughout the day and he called her every night before she went to bed. He told her he couldn’t wait for her to meet his children and take her to church with him. He said he was closing his dating profile and within two weeks he said on the phone, “I love you,” and he jokingly inferred marriage.

Wendy knew Kevin’s proclamations of love were happening way too fast—but truly he seemed genuine and Wendy was falling in love with him.

On their second date, they enjoyed a romantic dinner. After dinner he walked her to her car, he pressed her up against her car door, he gave her a passionate kiss and his hand found her breast.

Kevin continued to call Wendy nightly. “When are you going to marry me,” he cooed over the phone one night. He texted her daily, saying, “I want to be with you.” Then he jacked up his game. He texted, “When are we going to make love?” And he wrote, “Dreamed of u last nite, got excited.”

Wendy shirked it off and replied, “Take a cold shower.”

He phoned her at bedtime and he asked her, “What are you wearing,” knowing that the answer was a “nightie” or “nothing.” And then he texted “I get hard thinking about u.” “I hope u get *** when u think of me,” and finally, “I want 2 feel myself ****** u.”

Wendy asked herself, how would Jesus reply to a Bible sexting snake?

Wendy was shocked and uncertain of how to respond to him. He made it sound like he was kinda-sorta joking. She wondered … should she be a sport and text-flirt back with him? But her core felt oddly violated by his lewd assertions. She texted him back, telling him she was uncomfortable talking like that. He apologized and he withdrew in the following days.

11 Little Things Men Secretly Adore About The Woman They Love

things Men Secretly AdoreThe Woman They Love

He may not tell you directly, but he loves these tiny things you do.

In previous articles, we’ve discussed things that men secretly love, as well as things women secretly love. Some, admittedly, aren’t so secret. But many of these points were general and it’s a worthy conversation to get into the specific things men love about the woman in their life, but may not tell her (though, they should).

When a man is falling in love with a woman, there are many small or less obvious things about her and her personality that will bring a smile — not only to his face but also to his heart.

So, what are some things the man in your life probably loves about you, but may not have told you?


1. He loves the way he smiles when he thinks about you.

It doesn’t matter if he’s stressed out at work, stuck in traffic, or just bored scrolling through Facebook. If a man is lucky, he will have a woman come into his life who can make him smile without even being in the same zip code.

Just the thought of her or hearing her name will light him up like fireworks on the 4th of July. What’s not to love about that?


2. He loves when he makes you smile.

Have you ever noticed a guy who seemed to pick up momentum when he’s being funny? Even sorta-semi-funny, but not really, but damn he was trying?

A man loves to see the woman in his life smiling, laughing, and having a good time. And even more, he loves to be the source of that smile, even if it means making dumb jokes for her to laugh at.


3. He loves being physically close to you.

Whether the two of you are cuddled up on the couch or standing next to each other waiting for your cab, a man loves being close to the woman in his life. It’s a great way to feel connected with someone — physically and emotionally.

It’s hard to beat the feeling of the woman you care about laying on your chest or resting her head on your shoulder. Don’t ask me why it’s just science.


4. He loves when you play with his hair while he’s driving.

I wish I could give you a reason for this, but all I can say is that it’s the best thing ever.


5. He loves the way you smile after he kisses you.

You know that euphoric rush that comes over you when you kiss the right person? That feeling of endorphins and emotions that seems to take you over? That spark you feel when you kiss him or her?

Sometimes, there’s no other reaction to that feeling than to just … smile.


6. He loves when he catches you looking at him.

Men, like anyone else, crave the feeling of being wanted. Many times, we’re the pursuers in a relationship and we feel as though we’re consistently trying to prove ourselves in order to get attention, a first date, a second date. You get the idea.

When we’re with a woman who we feel really wants to be with us — who gives us the same affection and effort we give her, who we feel might just fall in love with us — there’s no better feeling in the world.


7. He loves when you do that funny little thing you probably don’t even know you do.

Maybe you crinkle your nose when you laugh, or maybe you hit him on the shoulder when you’re (a little) mad. Maybe you play with your hair when you get a little nervous.

Whatever it is, you may just do it naturally, but he notices. He notices because that’s one of the many little things separating you from any other woman he’s ever met. And he loves it.


8. He loves how natural things feel with you.

I was going to call this “He loves how he doesn’t have to try” to convey the idea that things should come easily, but obviously, every man (and woman) has to put in consistent effort and “try” to make a relationship work.

But two people can just be completely comfortable together and their relationship will feel natural. They’ll be content, but not in a complacent, boring way. They’ll be content in a deep sigh, and look into each other’s eyes and think, “So, this is how it’s supposed to be …”

The Reason Men And Women Think So Differently. This Guy Nails It

The Reason Men And Women Think So Differently. This Guy Nails It

Why Men And Women Think So Differently?

It’s no secret that men and women have always had difficulty fully understanding each other. But no one puts it better than International marriage speaker and comedian Mark Gungor.

According to marriage expert and comedian Mark Gungor, men and women have TOTALLY different styles of thinking…and it comes down to the way we sort things in our brains!

“Men’s brains and women’s brains are different!

And here’s how: Men’s brains are made up of little boxes and we have a box for everything. We have a box for the car. We have a box for the money. We have a box for the job, a box for the kids, a box for you, a box for your mother…somewhere in the basement.

And the rule is the boxes do not touch. All right?

When a man discusses a particular subject, he goes to the appropriate box, slides it out, opens it up, will discuss only the content of that particular box and then when he is done, he puts it away hoping not to touch or disturb any of the other boxes.

Now a woman’s brain is made up of a big ball of wire and everything is connected to everything…It’s like the Internet superhighway, and it’s all driven by energy that we call emotion. It’s one of the reasons that women tend to remember everything because if you take an event and tie it to emotion you can remember it forever. The same thing happens to men, but it doesn’t happen very often, because frankly…we don’t care. But women tend to remember EVERYTHING! Zzzzzzz-zzzzz-zzzz.

Men have a box in their brain that women are not aware of. This particular box, has NOTHING in it. It’s true. In fact, we call it the “Nothing” box. And of all the boxes a man has in his brain, the nothing box is his favorite box. If a man has a chance, he’ll go to his nothing box EVERYTIME. That’s why a man can do something seemingly completely brain dead for hours on end. You know, like, fishing. They’ve actually measured this. The University of Pennsylvania did a study and men can do absolutely nothing and still breathe. Women can’t do it. Their minds never stop! Zzz-Zzzz-zzzz. And they don’t understand the “Nothing” box…and it drives them CRAZY…because NOTHING makes a woman go crazy like watching a man…doing…nothing!”

These words were excerpted from one of Gungor’s most famous speeches, transcribed from the video below.