Every Relationship With Get “boring” After You’ve Been Together For Years

Every Relationship With Get boring After You've Been Together For Years

“Every relationship will get “boring” after you’ve been together for years if you let it. Love isn’t a feeling, it’s a commitment; to love every day, physically and emotionally. It’s difficult, it’s not always laughs, smiles and fun. People tend to quit when it stops being fun, and they go look for someone else.  “the spark is gone.” No, that’s not how it works. You want somebody to never give up on you, and love you unconditionally? Do the same. Be the change. This isn’t Hollywood, this isn’t the movies. That shit isn’t real. Love someone when you don’t want to. When they are being a fucking asshole. When they’re being hard to love. That’s the realest shit there is.”

When People Act Shady, Allow Them

When People Act Shady, Allow Them

When people act shady, allow them. When people betray your trust, allow them. But never, ever sink to their level. Their choices are a direct reflection of who they are, not who you are. No matter how angry, hurt, or disappointed you may be – do not allow them to make you bitter. Be better. React with love. Sometimes that means retaliating with understanding and compassion, other times it means retaliating with acceptance and sheer silence. Whatever it is, make sure it benefits you as a human being instead of lowering you into a position which you would rather not be in. Just because someone’s an asshole.

It Is Interesting How People Feel The Need To Rush Through Life As A Way To Prove Maturity

It Is Interesting How People Feel The Need To Rush Through Life As A Way To Prove Maturity

It is interesting how people feel the need to rush through life as a way to prove maturity. People will rush into relationships, love,sex, marriage, education, careers, etc just to show that they are grown. As a person who is grown, I find myself understanding that there is maturity in saying “I’m not ready.” There is also maturity in saying “I want to wait.” And there is maturity in saying “let me take some time to prepare.” Being in tune with where I am and making decisions based on my own needs and not the pressure to prove that I’m grown, that I have it all figured out, that in perfect is important to me.
I move at my own pace. I move at the speed that works for me. I move in a way that doesn’t cause me to be impatient with God or myself. I have learned to be still, or wait, or take as much time as I need.
— anonymous

She Doesn’t Want A Boyfriend, She’s Ready For A Man

She Doesn't Want A Boyfriend, She's Ready For A Man

She doesn’t want a boyfriend, she’s ready for a man.
Someone who understands that she has more than just physical needs that must be met. She’s ready for a man who’s willing to be there for her so consistently that she’ll never have to double check…she’s ready. She’s ready for a man who takes an interest in her mental and emotional well-being. She’s ready for a man that can feel what she’s trying to say even when she’s not speaking…she’s ready.

It Has Been One Of The Greatest And Most Difficult Years Of My Life

It Has Been One Of The Greatest And Most Difficult Years Of My Life

“it has been one of the greatest and most difficult years of my life. I learned everything is temporary. moments. feelings. people. flowers. I learned love is about giving- everything- and letting it hurt. I learned vulnerability is always the right choice because it is easy to be cold in a world that makes it so very difficult to remain soft. I learned all things come in twos: life and death, pain and joy, sugar and salt, me and you. it is the balance of the universe. it has been the year of hurting so bad but living so good, making friends out of strangers, making strangers out of friends, learning [sweet tea] will fix just about everything and for the pains it can’t, there will always be my mother’s arms. We must learn to focus on warm energy, always. soak our limbs in it and become better lovers to the world, for if we can’t learn to be kinder to each other how will we ever learn to be kinder to the most desperate parts of ourselves.”

— Rupi Kaur