10 Signs You’re Emotionally Wounded That No One Notices

10 Signs You’re Emotionally Wounded That No One Notices

1. You cry easily over small things.

When you have emotional wounds, it’s for you to be in tears because you always feel the pain within yourself subconsciously. You will cry over movies or books and you become emotional when you see something that touches your heart. When you find yourself crying too much, pay attention to your inner well-being as it might be a sign that you’re hurting inside.

 

2. You lose interest towards the things you used to enjoy.

Emotional wounds will make it difficult to concentrate and focus on the things you used to do. You will be demotivated because your negative emotions are most likely more in charge than you realize. Once you realize that you are no longer enjoying the things you used to, ask yourself why and don’t be stuck doing anything. The more you do nothing, the more you will feel the pain of your emotional wounds.

 

3. You get annoyed easily by people’s behaviors.

Having emotional wounds will also make you easily triggered emotionally by people’s behaviors around you. You will be highly sensitive towards people’s words, intonations, questions, even their jokes. The emotional wounds that you’ve had will make you avoid interactions with other people and it leads to social withdrawal. Even though having a quality time with yourself is important, remember that being open with other people can also help you reduce the pain of your emotional wounds.

 

4. You feel worthless and hopeless.

Having emotional wounds will most likely make you look down on yourself and feel worthless. You will blame yourself and feel stupid for being hurt so much. You will also feel hopeless and broken beyond repair. When you feel like you are at the lowest point of your life, try to reach those people who are really close to you. Let yourself be cared for and loved, because social support could increase your self-esteem and make you feel better with your circumstances.

 

5. You keep replaying the bad memories in your head.

When you can’t forget a painful experience in your past and it keeps replaying in your head, there’s a possibility that it has become one of your emotional wounds. Your inability to forget a painful experience is actually a sign that you should acknowledge that experience and accept the hurt. Try to identify and look for the reasons why it made you hurt so much and accept that being hurt because of that experience is totally okay and normal.

 

6. You feel too much until you’re numb.

Most of the time, your emotional wounds are so painful it makes you feel nothing instead. You will go through the day almost on autopilot which makes you care less about your surroundings. You no longer feel happy or sad; you just exist, but you don’t feel alive. Your numbness is actually your coping mechanism to survive from your emotional wounds. Try to regulate your emotions since it could also be a coping mechanism for lowering your psychological distress.

 

7. You overthink everything.

Having emotional wounds will make you insecure about your life and it will most likely make you overthink everything. You overthink because you don’t want to be hurt again. Thus, you will feel that it’s important for you to think and control everything around you and instead of feeling better, your overthinking habit will make your emotional wounds even worse.

 

8. You have a chaotic sleep schedule.

Because of your overthinking habit towards your emotional wounds, it will be hard for you to fall asleep at night. Your mind will be full of thoughts and the night time is usually the time when you will feel so desperate, lonely, and depressed. Your sleep schedule will change as it’s hard for you to sleep at night and you’ll overcompensate during the day.

 

9. You feel clueless and stuck.

Emotional wounds can also make you feel so confused and lost. You will feel like you have nowhere to go and nobody can really heal your wounds. You will have so many negative self-talks inside of you and your mind is usually tangled all the time. Try to control your confusion and untangle your thoughts by writing in a journal and remember to take it one day at a time.

5 Steps To Heal An Emotional Wound

5 Steps To Heal An Emotional Wound

Human mind, without a doubt, is the most powerful tool to ever exist on Earth. At its peak, there is no comparison to what it can think and achieve. However, at its vale, you will be surprised at the amount of darkness you could find there. Turning on the light there is not really as easy as Dumbledore made it sound. Even with a full-fledged wand.

This darkness is more than often a manifestation of some sort of emotional grief − or wound, if you please.

We have put together a process that you may follow to help heal an emotional wound. This would probably be a good time to mention that this article is not to be mistaken for a professional guidance or therapy. Look at it as a letter from a distant friend who simply cares for anybody reading it.

Step 1: Accept that there is a problem.

For any sort of defect, you cannot hope to fix it if you refuse to acknowledge it. Examine your feelings. You may use your peers’ general feelings as a guide. Find out what is unusual about your emotions than theirs − if there is any. (Do not convince yourself of having a problem if you clearly don’t have one.) This may not be a helpful approach at all times though. Use any means to identify what is wrong. Once you actively start looking for the problem, you will find it. When you finally find it, start by telling it back to yourself. Talk it out or write it down. Try using the first-person pronoun: ‘I feel…’ , ‘I think I am so-and-so because…’ , ‘I know I am hurt because …’, etc.

Step 2: Share your finds.

Sharing out your thoughts is considered healthy – both physically and psychologically. Talking to yourself is just the first step, because, it is clear that you are not capable of thinking up a solution. If you were, you’d have already found a way out of this darkness, and not so far into this article.

Choose a person. A correct person who you are comfortable with and whom you trust to listen to you without judging: it could be a parent (or even both), grandparents, sibling, cousin, best friend, any elder, a teacher or even a counselor if needed. Whoever it might be, just talk. While talking, try not to make it sound like a sad story. You have to get over thinking of yourself as the victim. You are fighting this darkness − you are not a victim. You are a fighter right now.

Try to look for something to be thankful for in whatever you are upset about and hold on to it. It could be something as simple as − I am going to be alright. It’s not so bad, really.

Step 3: Accept, love and nurture yourself.

Sometimes, your guilt, your hurt, your misery can make you feel negative about your body. It could get very tempting to inflict the pain of your emotions onto your body. It would be a good idea to treat yourself as three different entities: your mind (that will be you), your heart and your body. Decide which of them is the epicenter of the hurt − that would mostly be your mind or your heart, or both − and utilize the remaining ones to support the rest through this dark time. Treat your three entities as each other’s best friends. If at least one of them is unscathed or protected, all three will eventually be fine.

One of the best medicines, after laughter, is sleep. (Anybody telling you otherwise has a long way to go.) Sleep regularly. Emotions can tire you out as easily as any physical activity.
Apart from that, eat properly. If you don’t feel hungry, fix three times − for breakfast, lunch and dinner − and eat substantial stuff (and not the low carb, low fat, low taste nonsense) on your own. Maybe you will be force-feeding, but it will take your body a long way.

Indulge in activities that you normally love. It is okay to feel happy. Your mind will try to tell you that you deserve to not be happy. But that is a lie. Ignore your mind: you have a right to feel happy for your heart and body. Read, go on walks, cook, sing, hum, paint − do things. Utilize your time. Nurture yourself. Take care of yourself. Love yourself through it. You deserve it.

Step 4: Forgive and forget.

An important part of moving on is to give up what is holding you back. The only way to do it is by forgiving whoever you believe is responsible for it. Be it somebody else, some event or even you yourself: everybody deserves to be forgiven. However big the offense seems to you, however hard it feels to let go of the hurt or guilt, however unfair it feels, just… let it go. That, essentially, is the best closure you will ever get. It is also the only way to forget its gory parts.

Step 5: Move on.

Life is supposed to be lived. Remember the three best friends (your mind, your heart, and your body)? They need to live − for each other. Remember All for one and one for all. Nothing that hasn’t killed you yet, can kill you even now. Moving on from a time as dark as this is the bravest thing you will ever do for yourself, and you must. It can only go uphill from here. There is so much to do, so much to see, so much to explore, so much to discover. And you can do it all.
You are the best superhero you will ever get to save yourself and those three best friends. Be it.