How I Survived A Narcissistic Mother and how you can do it too

6. You are brilliant, and the right people will see it.

You can try to bend forward, backward or sideways but some people will never be able to see your brilliance. Not because of you, but because of them.

Ines tried so many times to escape her depression and get rid of her chronic anxiety. Unfortunately, she was bullied at school and physically abused at home. By the time she became an adult, she didn’t dare open her mouth anymore. She was extremely shy, suffered from an eating disorder and chronic pain. Still, she knew that once she found her way out, she wanted to help other victims of abuse. In her case, the only possible way to heal implied cutting off her violent mother and reconnecting with herself miles away from her family. Her siblings couldn’t understand her choice and criticized her, but she didn’t quit. Little by little she reconnected with who she was: a brilliant, positive, powerful young woman. Today, she is happily married, has two amazing kids and helps a victim of trauma. She is even starting to write her first book. She finally feels strong enough to share her message of hope, and the right people will connect with what she has to say.


Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself three things you appreciate about yourself. It might be hard at first, but it will get easier over time.


7. It’s your time to shine! And it can be safe too.

Are you hiding in plain sight? Are you present in the world and at the same time totally invisible, or at least not showing your true self? It makes so much sense. As human beings, our number one priority is to survive.

For Sandy, life was never a safe place. Her mom was a perverse narcissist, and later on, her husband was an abusive alcoholic. Sandy was a sensitive old soul with magical healing powers. Of course, consciously she wanted to be herself, but she didn’t feel safe. She spent many years hiding in a job she hated. She avoided relationships with men for fear they would hurt her. On the outside, she was this bubbly, happy blond executive. On the inside, she was a wounded being who came to me with pain in most of her body. It takes some time to heal these kinds of wounds. It takes energy and courage to try again and again. It’s about letting go of the pain and about creating new possibilities, one step at a time. For Sandy, it started by reconnecting with her inner-child and falling back in love with herself. The next step was to let go of a toxic relationship. And the next is to find a job where she can express herself fully. She will find it.


Abracadabra! Let the magic happen. In one year, you can achieve your dreams. What are you dreaming about? How will being visible help you? What is the first step you can take today that will get you closer to your dreams?


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Written by Dr. Fabienne Slama
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Fabienne Slama
Dr. Fabienne Slama AKA Fab is a Renaissance woman. After getting a divorce from a 20-year marriage and never having earned a living for herself, she built her company from zero to 6 figures in less than 3 years, published two books and helped over 1000 clients reinvent themselves. Today, she supports those who have been bullied by life and are doubting their potential to change their patterns, heal family trauma and reconnect with the FabYOUlicious part of themselves so they can manifest the success they desire at home and at work.
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