What feelings are you associating with weight loss or being healthier? List them.
Ok, now from here you’re going to start doing two crazy things.
First, stop trying to get motivated or telling yourself you need to be and just accept that you’re not. No motivation? Ok, that’s cool! Every time you notice yourself pressuring or judging yourself about it, make a purposeful effort to change those thoughts to thoughts of acceptance. Just accept where you are.
So, when you hear something like, “I need to get motivated to get this weight off. What am I going to do to get motivated? It’s been so long since I’ve felt motivated, what if I never do again?” etc… stop those thoughts in their tracks and just start repeating something else. Something as simple as, “it’s okay, let it go” can be helpful. Just accept that you’re not motivated and allow it to be okay.
I told you it was going to sound crazy. But it’s actually not crazy because here’s the thing – reminding yourself a hundred times a day that you need to get motivated does exactly nothing to actually get you motivated. In fact, it makes you less motivated because it’s like kicking yourself when you’re down.
Doesn’t it make you feel worse every time you remember how unmotivated you are? Exactly! We don’t want you feeling worse, we need you feeling better so we can start building forward momentum. Screw motivation, forward momentum is the ticket and that requires not continuing to beat on yourself.
Stop fighting against your reality and accept it. Allow yourself to be completely unmotivated. It is what it is. It is where you are. Fighting your reality does nothing to change it.
Second, start from there. Start where you are. Right now, with no motivation. That’s where you’re going to start.
You’re going to take everything you just discovered from the first few questions, you’re going to accept that you’re completely unmotivated and then you’re going to pick one thing to do today that moves you toward what you want based on the answers to the first two questions.
Pick just one thing and make it super small and easy. Make it something that makes you feel better since not only is that likely your core desired feeling but also feeling better will help drive forward momentum, which is what we want.
Look at the reasons why you’re not feeling motivated, what you actually want and use those answers to decide what one thing you’re going to do.
For example, are you unmotivated because you’re exhausted and your core desired feeling is to just feel better? Great. So then maybe the one thing you’ll do today is to nap or go to bed earlier tonight.
That’s understanding why you’re unmotivated, and starting to move towards what you really want from exactly where you are.
Then continue doing that every day. Assess how you feel, assess how you want to feel and do one thing about moving towards what you want based on how you feel and what you want.
That’s it. It’s just that easy. And so much healthier because rather than crapping on yourself, feeling like a victim to your lack of motivation and treating yourself and your body like garbage until you “get motivated again” you’re actively working towards just giving yourself what you actually need in a way that makes you feel better & makes life easier, rather worse. Every day. No more track to keep jumping on and falling off.
Reminding yourself a hundred times a day that you need to lose weight or get healthy without understanding why you’re not doing the things you think you should be doing to get there, is doing nothing but wasting time keeping you stuck in that rut and making you feel even worse – when I’m guessing all you really want is to just feel better, in general, and about yourself.
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Written by: Roni Davis Originally appeared on Ronidavis.com Republished with permission.