From one generation to the next, we have been misinterpreting emotional pain, and, as a result, an epidemic of unhealed emotional wounds plagues humanity. Fortunately, it’s never too late to heal, and, in fact, by releasing disempowering beliefs, you have the power to heal all emotional wounds.
How to Release Disempowering Beliefs?
Sometimes, just by acknowledging the true meaning of emotional pain, disempowering beliefs begin to loosen on their own. However, more often than not, the disempowering beliefs that cause the most pain are the most difficult to release – especially when we use emotional pain to validate their truth.
Therefore, as the first steps toward healing:
- Stop using emotional pain to validate your beliefs!
- Stop using emotional pain to prove that your negative stories about life are true!
Furthermore, before you can release disempowering beliefs, you must stop reinforcing them. For instance, as long as you judge yourself for not being good enough, there’s no way to release the belief in unworthiness, and, as long as you criticize yourself for being weak, there’s no way to release the belief in powerlessness.
By hurting yourself the way others hurt you, you perpetuate your own emotional wounds, and, as long as you treat yourself like a perpetrator might treat you, it’s impossible to heal. Therefore, if you want to heal, you must stop victimizing yourself, and this includes all forms of self-judgment — including everything from perfectionism to bullying yourself. In fact, whatever the form, you must stop inflicting emotional pain upon yourself!
Self-Love is the Answer
No matter how you look at it, as long as you withhold self-love, you prevent your own healing, and, in fact, the more you love yourself, the easier it is to release disempowering beliefs. Therefore, practice self-compassion and give yourself what you desire from others, such as acceptance, approval, validation, understanding, appreciation, etc…, and, always, speak kindly to yourself. For instance, “You’re doing the best you can and I’m proud of you!”
Since it’s also impossible to release disempowering beliefs while abandoning yourself, you must stop abandoning yourself. For more on this topic, please read my article, The #1 Reason Emotional Trauma Doesn’t Heal – and How to Overcome It!
Related: 12 Tips To Self-Love And Compassion
Remember Who You Really Are!
All emotional wounds and unhealed emotional trauma funnel down to one or more of four disempowering beliefs (powerlessness, unworthiness, loss, and victimhood), and, therefore, these are the beliefs we must identify, question, and release.
When a disempowering belief is enlightened by the truth of your unconditional worth and intrinsic power, it begins to dissolve, and you begin to heal, and, therefore, it’s important to remember who you really are!
Whether we are conscious or unconscious, we are all playing parts in the Game of Life, and although our True Selves are unconditionally worthy and intrinsically powerful, free-will allows us to believe anything we choose. By playing the Game of Life with amnesia of our True Selves, we can “make-believe” we are powerless or unworthy or believe whatever we want, but when the game is over, we inevitably wake-up as our True Selves – perfectly whole – and no worse for wear.
Find out who you really are
Even if you don’t remember who you really are, make the intention to find out, and don’t stop until you do, and, therefore, as a means of self-discovery, do your best to cultivate a meditation or mindfulness practice that works for you.
Now, you might argue that life experiences have proved your beliefs to be true. However, remember that life is a feedback system that demonstrates your beliefs. Therefore, no matter how it seems, life experiences cannot prove nor disprove any belief.