Then remind yourself that your abusive lover is just the stand-in for your parent.
Children cannot let go of their parents—but this abusive person is not your parent. You can let go. What your inner child wants is something that your abusive mate can never give you.
At first glance it may seem illogical that you still love someone who physically and emotionally abused you.
But, if you understand that it was an attempt to finally get emotional closure from a childhood wound, it begins to make more sense.
Written by Elinor Greenberg, Ph.D.
The above is adapted from a Quora answer called: How can I stop being in love with a man who physically and mentally abuses me? (Nov. 26, 2017)
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