Making other people miserable and unhappy activates the pleasure center of a Cluster B individual’s brain just like helping someone out of a crisis or through an emotionally turbulent period helps an Empath feel nice and accomplished.
This is where empaths go wrong. They believe that what floats their boat, floats others’ boats too, and helping and loving others’ makes them happy too. But the reality is not always that. That is why, there is always such a stark difference between them, and Cluster B people. Expecting everyone to be like them is not how it works, and it never did, to be honest.
Should we respect other people with regard to accepting them as they are rather than striving to change them?
So, those people who have been treated as scapegoats and have been mistreated and abused time and time again, should they simply accept and overlook the egocentrism? Should they simply focus on moving on from the toxic behavior they were subjected to? NO. A big fat NO.
So, how can you handle toxic people, and not feel sorry for them at the same time?
Cluster B people need to be handled with kid gloves all the time, and even though this might seem absurd, but it’s the truth. Whatever they say, should be treated like a virus that has the capacity to cause moral and emotional decay in a person and their minds.
The right way to feel when and if the wistful feeling of harboring sympathy for a Narcopath or Narcissistic Sociopath or Malignant Narcissist / Psychopath bubbles up is wishy-washy. Cluster B individuals tend to feel quite connected to their victims, especially the ones they hurt the most. That is why, they are always obsessing about people who never give them the time of the day, and are not really attracted to their status, power, or money. This annoys them to no end, and they are always looking to cause damage to them, in any way possible.
This sensation is similar to the ones where normal, decent people feel happy and content when they are loved and respected by others, or when they help animals and people just because they feel they should.
Having trouble controlling their impulses, looking for excessive pleasure, and their egocentric behaviors put most Narcopaths socially and emotionally in the position that when they finally feel bored, they are willing to go to any lengths to make themselves feel better and validated, sometimes even causing harm to themselves.
Most of the time you will notice that toxic people are the way they are, because of the inherent boredom they feel within themselves. The moment they feel bored and they feel like they have nothing to do, they start to drink compulsively, and indulge in drugs. This makes them even more volatile and poisonous, and it’s just a matter of time before they let loose their toxicity and rain hellfire on their victims.
Whenever you are interacting with a Cluster B individual, always make sure to look for the warning signs that their emotional and social behavior and mindset is not like others. Don’t try to understand their mind games, tricks, and narcissistic motives which they employ to make sure that the narcissistic supply is constantly flowing. The moment you understand the warning signs, move away as fast as possible and stop feeling sorry for these toxic people. Never waste your time feeling sorry for predators like them, because that is exactly what they want you to feel.