How To Stop Feeling Sorry For Toxic People

The more the Empath mourns for the Cluster B person’s loss of warm fuzzies, the more likely they are to spend an inordinate amount of time worrying, grieving for the other person’s loss, and trying their dead level best in ever social interaction possible to help the other person realize the error of their ways.

When a human being competes to win a point, victory for either side can never truly be accomplished.

Likewise, perceiving a Cluster B person as lacking or missing out on the pleasure of giving or being kind simply because their bodies are wired differently by grand systems theory elements of design is not only tunnel-visioned, it’s EGOCENTRIC.

Now, understand what that means is a person who expects the same reward stimulus to excite a Narcissist, Sociopath, Psychopath, Narcopath, Enabler, or even an Empath is simply falling what they were taught to think when they were little about what it truly means to be a good person.

A Narcissist will derive pleasure from showboating or being the center of attention, crushing the lives of their narcissistic rivals and preferred scapegoat targets under the weight of their own grandiosity.

A sociopath typically likes to take a more quiet and controlling lead, while a Psychopath prefers to brag on putting the “hot” in the word PSYCHOTIC (meaning they tend to have an anti-social nature coupled with a flair for the dramatic when it comes time for them to replenish narcissistic supply by scheming to pull an emotional vampire style feed).

People with HPD are typically the person who rolls into a room, dominates the environment by making a conspicuous fool of themselves, then leaving.

They are the ultimate “pay attention to ME” drama queens, with only Malignant Narcissists who have a somatic streak topping their wild, attention seeking antics.

Seriously, think of Nathan Lane’s character in “The Birdcage” with Robin Williams if you are not completely sure how to spot a person with HPD.

An Empath will strive to connect on an emotional level with nearly every person with whom they meet.

To them, leaving every person, place, and thing better than they found them or it truly makes their dreams come true with respect to producing all the happy feel-goods.

But what strikes the fancy of one is NOT always going to stimulate the same pleasure areas of the brain in others.

A Sadist might get off on personally striving to torture another living, breathing, sentient creature or harming a person’s reputation directly by concocting some ridiculous smear campaign to defame while a Sociopath might truly enjoy the sensation they derive from aggressively and skillfully stonewalling.

In the mind of an AVERAGE to above-average intellect person who has the ability physically to process complex emotions, things like getting a promotion at work or buying a new house that meets their family’s needs might give them pleasure.

For a Somatic Narcissist, buying a new house is seen as a competitive act — something that is done simply to compete with and ultimately provoke shame and envy in the Joneses.

For a person who is Cluster B, every social interaction and effort they make personally or professionally in life is driven by an abject competitive streak.

Pack animals are predatory by nature biochemically, they tend to nurture their offspring to compete and behave in egocentric manners just like they do — compulsively.


Because just like an Empath hopes everyone will someday evolve into the magnificent spiritual beings and loving creatures they are, a narcy or anti-social person who has absolutely no sensation of pleasure helping others but who enjoys being hurtful wants to pass that same “gift” onto their friends and family.

Only the difference of perspective that considers long-term results of competitive socially damaging behaviors can ever truly philosophically or psychologically define which perspective will help perpetuate the human species.

What is clear is that what produces pleasure in one type is likely to produce a big ho-hum, boring, “Meh…” for another when and if the brain lacks the capacity to perceive the other person’s reason why.

Therein, an Empath who was born and raised to be ruthless — but ISN’T — is likely to be the next generation of humans (from an evolutionary leap perspective) to survive and thrive.

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  1. Well then….that was a very…odd article. It was good in the sense of somewhat explaining a narcs motives and what they get pleasure from….but….holy worddy batman!!! Seriously some of those paragraphs and run on sentences made no sense at all they started out great and then quicly disolved into gibberish and nonsense….it was like they forgot completely the point they were trying to make. This article could have been half as long and twice as much impact with some clarity and focus if they would have just stopped trying to impress with using so many words and tried to use less and been more straight forward .