People with Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD) tend to be the type who bursts into a room, forces the limelight to be on them by making an absolute fool of themselves, and then leave just as suddenly as they came. They are the drama queens of the group, who are always looking to gain attention with their annoying antics.
Empaths on the other hand, always look forward to connecting with others on an emotional and mental level and look to build meaningful and positive relationships. No matter what they do, they always try to leave everything better than when they found them, and making a good difference wherever they do is what truly makes them feel happy and content.
But what stimulates the pleasure centers of one’s brain, might not be the same for others.
A Sadist might get off on personally striving to torture another living, breathing, sentient creature or harming a person’s reputation directly by concocting some ridiculous smear campaign to defame while a sociopath might thoroughly enjoy the feeling of constantly and aggressively stonewalling the person who loves and trusts them.
When a normal, decent person buys a house or gets a much-awaited promotion at work, how do they feel? Happy and excited, right? Well, that is now a normal person with normal intellect and brain behaves. Things like these give them happiness and pleasure. But for a Somatic Narcissist, it’s not the same story. For them buying a house or getting a promotion is a way of competing with others, even when there is no one competing with them.
This is because, for every Cluster B personality, every effort, social interaction, and life change is simply a manifestation of their endless and inherent sense of toxic competitiveness.
It’s quite apparent that what produces happiness in one type of person is likely to produce a boring reaction for another, when and if the brain lacks the capacity to perceive the other person’s reason why.
Are toxic people really unhappy on the inside?
When you were young, have you ever been told that people who are mean are not happy on the inside, have several emotional issues, and are full of insecurities? Well, it doesn’t always turn out to be 100% accurate, you know.
Cluster B personalities always think about themselves and their own needs first, at the cost of everyone else’s. That means the Alpha Lion in the family eats first, then his lioness, and scraps go to their children.
When a Cluster B person makes targets prey, all their pride comes tromping after the leader to assist in the kill. Once their meal for the day is secured, then they will lurk about, taking bites of the prey — but typically not until after the elder or stronger animal has eaten their proverbial fill.
Such is the way dysfunctional and toxic families operate. The individual who is emotionally intelligent, sensitive, mature and intuitive, is mentally and psychologically attacked over and over again by the Alpha predator.
Following that person’s lead, other toxic members of the family will swoop in to actively engage in provoking, mobbing, shaming, ridiculing, and gaslighting for fun, or actively participate in making them feel crazy.