How to Stop Envying Others’ Seemingly Perfect Lives And Start Enjoying Your Own

 July 31, 2019

How to Stop Envying Others Seemingly Perfect Lives

Here’s where you can make magic in your own life. If you want to know how to stop being envious. And use the knowledge as a path to loving your life more. Then you must know this secret way to transform envy into a life you love more:

  • own the truths you discover and acknowledge what you really crave
  • create a plan to get what you want
  • take the first baby step towards getting what you desire

This is effective for everything you may envy. And allows you to use an emotion that feels icky and can be destructive as a force of good in your life.


I want you to notice that I didn’t bring up counting your blessings as how to stop being envious.
That’s because despite knowing that gratitude is a great way to love your life more when you’re feeling a rotten emotion like envy, it’s easy to slip into shaming yourself.

Sure, you may know you have a lot of great things in your life. But that doesn’t mean you don’t desire – and deserve – more. Yes, feeling envious is rotten. And your inner critic may try to shame you for falling prey to such a crappy and destructive emotion.

Please don’t do that, my dear. You are simply being human. And none of us can escape that.

If for any reason you find yourself back to coveting or obsessing over any one person, in particular, stop and breathe. Remind yourself that everyone. And I mean everyone. Posts more of the highlights from their lives rather than the crappy middle of trying to get there.

Once you get through the emotional roller-coaster that envy can cause, channel this into loving your own, imperfect life. Because you, my darling, deserve to live a life that is loving, nourishing, and full of all kinds of goodness.

Written by Debra Smouse
Originally appeared in Debra Smouse

Debra Smouse is a life coach and author who has been published in Time, Huffington Post, MSN, Psychology Today, and more. She knows that the path to loving your life begins with an uncluttered mind.  Snag a free workbook with life hacks on how to love YOUR life.

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