Be compassionate, not abusive
Admitting that you are an abusive person and deciding to change takes a lot of strength and courage. But change is possible. Although most abusers never change, some do. And you can too. You can become a loving, compassionate, caring, supportive and “non-abusive” person. You can build happier, healthier relationships.
As long as you are committed and determined, you have a strong support system and you seek professional help, you can change your abusive personality. All you need to do is be accountable, forgive yourself, respect others and control your expectations.
Here is an interesting video that you may find helpful: