This is why it is so important that you put systems and processes in place that limit the need for you to use discipline and willpower. In the case of our dieter, it would be better for them to trash all the candy they no longer want to eat.
This is also true when it comes to you and your dream life. If you want to ensure that you follow through on your vision, you have to be willing to limit the ability for you to revert back to your previous life.
4. Accountability is a must.
When you are accountable to someone or a group, you will find yourself more motivated to continue. Deep down, we all want to be accepted by others. Even though this can work against you sometimes, this particular occasion is not one of them.
When you proclaim your goal to specific people, it improves the likelihood of you following through. However, some research suggests that making it public and announcing it to everyone may hurt your chances of following through.
You may be surprised to know, but you experience accountability on a regular basis.
- If the CEO asks you to provide a report, you are going to do your best in order to impress the CEO.
- If you’re invited to a class reunion, you will feel more motivated to get in shape.
- If you know you are going to have company over at your house, you are going to clean more carefully.
Accountability works because you want to keep your word and make a good impression of yourself in front of others.
5. Find a catalyst for change.
There are things you can and cannot control in life. Do not allow the fear of failure or fear of uncertainty to keep you from living your dream life. Everything is not going to go smoothly on your journey. You are going to face challenges and setbacks.
The good news is failure is a part of success and personal development. They are two halves of the same coin. What tends to happen is that people spend so much time trying to avoid failure that they never realize they are undermining their ability to find success.
By understanding that failure is a part of success, you understand your goal is not to avoid failure, but to build on it.
Your dream life does not necessarily need a positive event to start. Often, it is the negative events (or perceived negative) and a sense of desperation that drives people to reach further than they ever have before.
Your catalyst for change may be exactly what you wanted, or it may be the worst thing that could have happened. Either way, your focus is on what to do next. You want to build on that event by stacking positive events on top of it.
Choose to respond to each situation by taking another step towards your dream life.
6. Understand that character matters.
In a study between two schools on opposite ends of the economic spectrum, positive psychology experts created a list of character strengths they believed essential to success.
Their list included grit, self-control, zest, social intelligence, gratitude, optimism, and curiosity.
Some of the character traits were common with how most people view success, such as grit, curiosity, or self-control. However, gratitude, zest, optimism, and social intelligence (compassion) were on the list, but their relation to success is often overlooked.
It’s important to remember that change comes from the inside-out. Your core values are the prism through which you accomplish your goals.
7. Muster up the courage.
Once you have completed the first six steps, you have everything you need to feel inspired, step away from your comfort zone, and start living your dreams.
Do not allow yourself to procrastinate on your transformation. The fear of change may disguise itself as a thoughtful plan to wait for more information or better timing.