7. Doing what I love, not what’s expected
This is huge! There are so many expectations set for us from birth. “Oh she’s going to be the doctor in the family”, or “he’s going to become a lawyer”. It’s also set by society. “Women don’t go into construction or become officers of the law”.
If you are someone who yearns to be accepted, you tend to follow social norms to please others, not realizing how much damage you cause to yourself. That’s how I wasted my time getting my bachelor’s degree in business only to realize that I hated it and had to go back for my master’s in counseling.
Be true to yourself and do what you love. Ask yourself “what am I passionate about, what do I spend hours doing without realizing that hours flew by?” Then do it! Don’t think about it, just do it. The universe has your back.
8. Practice, Practice, Practice
Allow love in! Practice this by giving more to yourself. More love, more compassion, and more forgiveness. Speak to yourself the way you want to be spoken to. Love yourself the way you want to be loved and take care of yourself the way you want to be taken care of. Put yourself first.
I had a hard time with this as I’m the “mama bear” when it comes to my siblings, close friends, or family. I realized though, that unless I put myself first I would not be able to take care of others. It is not selfish. It is self-full. There’s a reason why they tell you to put the mask on yourself first before you apply the mask on someone else in an airplane.
Not only do you want to practice loving yourself, don’t forget to let others love you. Open the door and let those that deserve to love you to love you. You deserve it.
This is key. Each day I try to make sure that I balance my life. By that I mean, not overextending at work, home, or with a certain person. You don’t want to tip the scale. Any extreme is not healthy.
Of course, this takes time and consistent work, but as I have worked on myself I see myself, and the world, a bit brighter – sparkling. Did I mention I like sparkly things? 🙂
What about you? What changes have you made towards working on yourself? I’d love to hear it!
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When you start treating yourself with kindness, and a whole lot of love, your life changes for the better. No matter how people judge you or perceive you, if you know who you are, and accept and love yourself for that, nobody will be able to break your spirit. Ever. So, love yourself enough so that when people look at you, they can’t help but smile.