11. You stop waiting around.
You stop believing lies and excuses. Because when you are sure of yourself you don’t want to associate with people who aren’t. You let go of that relationship and that person who keeps you on their string. You let go of anyone who isn’t a sorted and sure person.
12. You’re no longer jealous.
In the past, you might have walked into the room and compared yourself to others. But now you know the only person you are competing with is the one looking back at you in the mirror.
13. You stop settling.
You don’t settle for average. Your standards might be high and what many consider unrealistic but you don’t change them. Instead, you hold your ground and anyone who doesn’t meet those standards gets kicked to the curb.
14. You let go of baggage that isn’t yours to bear.
You let go of the past and other people’s problems. You don’t let it haunt you anymore. Instead, you’ve learned to truly live in the moment.
15. You stop blaming yourself for things.
Instead, you take responsibility for the things that are within your control. Everything else stops being your problem.
16. You become selectivity selfish.
Being selfish isn’t a bad thing. Putting yourself first is what you’ve needed to do for a while now. You’ve started to do it and you realize you should have always been your number one priority.
17. You stop choosing negativity.
Negative people. Negative conversations. Gossip. Complaining. None of those things add value to your life or someone else’s. Choosing to be positive isn’t just a choice it’s something you have to practice.
18. You stop succumbing to peer pressure.
FOMO isn’t something that dictates your life anymore. Every choice you make is based on will this make me happy? And if the answer is no you don’t go that way.
19. You stop blaming other people for your circumstances.
When you start having self-respect you take control of your life. You don’t play the victim card anymore because you aren’t a victim and this is your life and it’s up to you to make the most of it.
20. You stop trying to win people over.
You get to a point where you realize “I don’t care what people think of me”. When you like yourself the important people will too.
21. You make overall healthier choices.
And it’s not just choosing to go to the gym that day or eating a salad. It’s the healthier choices of relationships and being selective with who you associate with and how you spend your time.
It’s staying in on a Friday night instead of blacking out. In fact, you don’t drink much anymore or go overboard because you don’t have to escape your reality when you are the one taking control of the narrative.
When you become healthier in small parts of your life, you see the overall impact on time or how you have changed.
Written By Kirsten Corley
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