Here are 7 ways to manage and cope with the life transition.
1. Accept the change as normal
Your life is a series of transitions. The only thing you can be sure about is change. Sometimes change can be dramatic such as comes from death, a firing, or separation.
The quicker you can accept the changes the easier it will be for you to move through it into a new life.
2. Don’t be afraid to feel what you are experiencing
The worst thing you can do is to repress your emotions. The more you push the emotions away, the worse you will make it for yourself.
You may find it hard to connect with your pain, sadness, and fear. It might feel like they are taking over your life. Despite the intensity of your feelings and sensations, the more you can learn to live with them the less you will feel constricted by them.
One way to move through these intense sensations and emotions is to use deep breathing, meditation, and prayer. These are ways to ground yourself in your body, heart, and head.
3. Take the time to grieve what you lost
To be open to the future you need to let go of what you have lost whether that is a person, pet, job, or relationship. Part of grieving is to feel your loss as I described above. The important thing is finding safe places to feel the intensity of your emotions.
You will most likely feel comfortable to do this in a place where you have some privacy and presence of a friend, family member, or professional you trust.
Find the courage to verbalize what you have been through as long as it does not become like a repeating record.
Express your emotions in whatever way it is safe for you and the people around you. If you feel like crying let out the tears.
Going through transitions takes a lot of energy. It is vital for you to make sure you are eating well, getting plenty of sleep and not afraid to ask for help.
You might want to let go of some of your extra duties, if possible, to give yourself more time to take care of yourself.
Learn to be gentle with yourself as you move through this challenging time. You can be your own worst enemy. Give yourself extra space to prepare for a new chapter in your life.
5. Remember your life values
It can be easy to lose yourself during this time of transition when it feels like the world has turned upside down.
Take time to reflect on what is important to you as you start to build the new normal for your life.
What do you need to keep doing that gives you life? Is there something new you want to try in your life? During this time of transition might be the perfect time to try it!
6. See the world with fresh eyes
As you move through the grief, you will begin to see the world with fresh new eyes. Sometimes you need something dramatic to happen to open yourself to new possibilities.
Maybe it is something you have always wanted to do but have been too afraid to try.
7. The grief will pass
Going through physical, emotional, mental and spiritual transformation is intense. Avoiding intensity through drugs and alcohol can be tempting. But in the end, if you can find the courage to face this, head on, you are going to make a faster recovery.
Your emotions are constantly changing. Just remind yourself your intense feelings and sensations will pass. The more you can face your feelings and sensation the less hold they will have on you and the quicker they will pass.
You have no reason to fear change.
Change is the one guarantee of life. The best attitude is to accept that change will happen, expected or not.
When you have experienced some form of loss, it is better for you to face it. But you need to give yourself time to work through it.
You need to acknowledge that you are going to require extra care during this time of transition. Make sure you are getting your needs met and that you have a safe space to release your sadness and anger.
Have family and friends you trust to walk with you through this journey. And, when your friends and family are not enough, find a coach, or counselor who can journey with you helping you to reconnect with your inner wisdom, courage, and strength.
Openly facing the challenges of life transitions, you will find greater purpose and meaning in life as you grow mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically through the forces of change.