#6. What you can learn: To love yourself
Loving yourself means standing up for yourself. It means having strong boundaries, knowing your self-worth, having compassion for others, and the strength to forgive an abuser. It also means that simply because you are willing to help and forgive someone, it doesn’t mean that you allow them to exploit you.
Self-love is not about being selfish. It is about giving yourself the love you deserve. It is about valuing and respecting yourself.
Self-love is crucial for your psychological, emotional, and spiritual development. Self-love expands through hardships, struggles, and actions which empower us to mature emotionally. And being with a narcissistic person will undoubtedly teach you how to love yourself. You will start accepting yourself despite all your weaknesses, you will find your life purpose and experience fulfillment and satisfaction with your own efforts.
Clinical psychologist Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D. writes “Self-love is important to living well. It influences who you pick for a mate, the image you project at work, and how you cope with the problems in your life.” Self-love also helps you gain the awareness to realize when it’s time to let go of someone and provides you the strength to walk away.
There’s light in the darkness
Narcissism provides you the darkness to help you realize the value of even the faintest bit of light. In essence, a narcissistic person can help you be more grateful towards life. They can help you heal your inner child and discover who you are truly meant to be.
They are a difficult, yet important part of your spiritual journey. They can help you learn the deepest spiritual lessons of your life and find your true self. Accepting this purpose of the narcissist can liberate you from all the pain, fear, and confusion. Without a narcissist, you may not have been able to become your most authentic self and build a life that aligns with your spiritual journey.