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How To Speak Your Partner’s Love Language and Strengthen Your Relationship

How To Speak Your Partners Love Language

Speak your partner’s love language

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How To Speak Your Partner’s Love Language and Strengthen Your Relationship

If you are wondering how you can express your love and affection to your partner in their preferred love language, then here are some tips to help you.

1. Words of Affirmation

If this is your partner’s love language, then they need verbal affirmations and compliments from you. They need you to tell them why you love and value them. Simple words like “You make me so happy” or “I am so proud of you” can make them feel loved.

How to communicate: 

Encourage them, give affirmations, appreciate them, show empathy and actively listen to them.

Actions to take: 

Make sure to frequently send them loving and encouraging notes, texts, or cards. Encourage your partner often. Compliment them frequently, share words of appreciation, etc.

Things to avoid: 

Don’t assume they know you love them. Stay away from non-constructive, toxic criticism or use emotionally abusive words. Don’t fail to identify or appreciate the effort they put in.  

Related: 3 ‘Love Language’ Communication Skills That Will Strengthen Your Relationship

2. Acts of Service

When your partner wishes to communicate love through acts of service, then you need to put in some effort to help them out with their work. Do simple actions which they will appreciate a lot. This can include doing household chores, cooking or doing the dishes, buying groceries, etc.

How to communicate: 

Say things that will show them you’re available to help them. Use action words like “Let me help you” or “I’m here” or “I’ll help.”

Actions to take: 

Do things around the house including chores. Help with difficult, time-consuming tasks and be spontaneous to help in small ways. Make sure to take an effort to reduce their daily workload. Always follow through.

Things to avoid: 

Don’t skip the work you promised you will get done or ask your partner to do something of higher priority. Don’t ignore requests for help or fall into gender-based stereotypes for doing tasks.

3. Receiving Gifts

When your partner speaks this love language, then the first thing you need to realize is that the gifts don’t have to be expensive. As they say, it’s the thought that counts. Put in the effort to find the perfect gift for them that shows how well you know them.

Gifts that show how much you value and appreciate them. It can be the simplest, yet most thoughtful gift that will matter the most to them. Small gifts and gestures matter the most. Thoughtfulness in gift giving is crucial.

How to communicate: 

Show thoughtfulness, make an effort to show that they are a priority. Give gifts that represent feelings, moments, or experiences.

Actions to take: 

Give gifts randomly and unexpectedly without waiting for a special occasion. Show gratitude when receiving a gift. Bring souvenirs when you travel without your partner. Give small tokens of appreciation when they are not their best

Things to avoid:  

Make sure not to forget any special occasions. Don’t focus on materialism or the cost of the gift. Do it out of love and not as a duty.

Related: What Is Your Love Language? Take This 6 Question Quiz To Find Out

4. Quality Time

Make sure you spend a lot of time with your partner and share experiences that are exciting, fun, loving, and simple. This will show that you prioritize your partner. Go on dates every weekend, spend some time alone without children, do things that your partner likes, or simply stay at home and enjoy each other’s company.

How to communicate: 

Engage in deep meaningful conversations that are uninterrupted. Spend more time with one another. Be mentally present and give them the attention they deserve.

Actions to take: 

Focus on making special memories. Go on weekend getaways, make plans to do new activities together, take walks to the park, or do small things that both of you enjoy.

Things to avoid: 

Stay away from all distractions when you’re spending quality couple time together. Unplug from all devices and turn your smartphone off, if possible. Don’t focus on other priorities when spending time together. Make sure not to think of them as needy.

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