4. They feel intimidated and simply don’t want to acknowledge your successes or happiness because they are unwilling or have been unable to achieve it for themselves.
5. They’re immature and don’t have a growth mindset.
6. They’ve made a lot of poor choices. Instead of taking responsibility for those choices and using it as a way to grow or change themselves, they target the people who are making GOOD choices for themselves and become resentful towards them.
7. They have resentment towards you or others, particularly when it comes to other people’s achievements or celebratory moments. The worst part about this is they probably aren’t even aware that they’re being resentful or are in complete denial about it.
8. They’re extremely selfish. They only see things their way and will never try to see anyone else’s side of things.
9. They may be narcissistic since most narcissists are so self-absorbed they have a difficult time letting others be in the spotlight. Narcissists also make everything about them and often put down those around them.
10. They simply SUCK as a human being and need some serious self-reflection and re-evaluating.
11. They have low self-esteem (which is also why they’d rather put others down and be resentful over treating others with kindness and respect).
12. They love starting drama or gossiping negatively about others.
13. Something was missing from their upbringing – whether it be that healthy, stable environment, or having a best friend, or having any friends. They were never shown how to and never really needed to be happy for anyone else. They carried this with them through adulthood.
Here is what you can do to combat these types of individuals and to not take it too personally when you sense they’re hating on you and your joy:
1. Remember to keep living your life. Let them be stuck and unwilling to change, they’re only hurting themselves in the long run.
2. Just do you. Keep being proud of yourself and your accomplishments, keep celebrating the joy. You deserve it. Those who truly care about you will be right by your side for all the happy moments.
3. Recognize who IS happy and who IS always there for you, stop focusing on who ISN’T.
4. You can’t control people, so stop trying. Focus on what you CAN control. I know in some cases this is easier said than done, but once you learn to let go, you’ll start to realize the (harsh) truth – that no matter how much you may love and care about someone, and how much you just want to share your happiness with them, they may never want to, or feel the need to, reciprocate that love and joy back to you. It’s sincerely not YOU, it’s them. It’s an internal issue they need to work on.
5. Most importantly, It’s YOUR life. Don’t let anyone dull your shine or break your happiness.
Nikki is from Boston and has been writing since she was a young girl. She often uses her personal experiences as inspiration for her writing, in the hopes of helping others out there who may have been through similar struggles. She and her husband run a small business called Moonlight & Mindfulness where they offer hand-poured crystal candles, homemade tea blends, and crystal items like jewelry and gift sets. Nikki is also a meditation practitioner and leads workshops on things like the moon phases and shadow work.
Written By Nikki Rutledge
Originally Appeared Nikki Zarrella