To the single woman- Happy Valentine’s Day and tips for making it through the day!

To the single woman- Happy Valentine’s Day and tips for making it through the day!

One among the major challenges facing a woman who is single is attending a wedding solo or celebrating Valentine’s Day alone; for these are days that highlight your singleness to your friends and family. You are alone. It also becomes particularly harder when everyone around your circle is coupled up. The spotlight is on you. This may be a good thing or a bad thing depending on how you interpret the situation.

I have been single for six years now. In the beginning it was hard- making me want to settle in a relationship as long as I get to be seen with a significant other. The experience left me depleted and angry at myself for allowing someone to treat me less than I deserve. I remember, when I had a boyfriend who didn’t plan a date for us on valentine’s day back on the days when I was coupled up nor got me anything for the event. I was angry; not because he didn’t get me anything but because he never even thought about it.

So for the last six years I have been celebrating this special day on my own; and each year it gets better than the last one. This is because I have learned to embrace my singleness and plan my day for the special woman that I am. Some of the things that you can do alone to celebrate this special day on your own can range from buying yourself gifts to dancing your heart out. However, the goal is to enjoy it regardless of your soloness. Here is what you can do:

1. Go out on your own

Every valentine’s day ever since I became single, I have been taking myself out. Yes it’s daunting considering everyone will be cooing over their significant other. But that hasn’t stopped me. I cooed over myself and my wine and the food in front of me. However, this year, I will be going out with a friend of mine who is also single and we will have the time of our lives celebrating on our own.

2.Dance your heart out

The first year that I became single; Valentine’s Day was very hard for me. I wasn’t yet comfortable to sit on own through dinner on a day when everyone was in pairs. So instead, I went dancing. It was fun; it was liberating and it was invigorating. I danced my heart out on the dance floor. I swayed my hips to the rhythm of the music. There were men who were single too on that day, and I ended up having a good time with them. Not like that…only though dancing.

3. Buy yourself a gift

I buy myself gifts whenever I feel like I need to remind myself how special I am. The longer I was single the comfortable I became and this reminder wasn’t necessary for it was sealed in my heart and brain each and every day as I traverse through life’s ups and down alone. I buy myself chocolates and flowers. Well, this year I spoiled myself with sexy lingerie. I can hear what you are thinking: ‘but nobody will see them or peel them off your body later on’. Yeah I know. I will peel them slowly myself as if am being undressed by a lover.

4. Netflix and chill

You can decide to watch all your favourite movies on this particular day. However, don’t choose something depressing: I always go for movies that remind me that love is worth finding and sometimes we don’t get what we want; when we want it. Sometimes we have to learn to be alone before we can be able to love another being unconditionally. Sometimes, it’s also good to believe in magic and fairytales. But don’t forget to accommodate reality in your perspective.

Don’t lock yourself inside the house- afraid that you are not good enough because you are single. Enjoy yourself on this special day. Spend the day with the number one love of your life: yourself. And feel the magic of love, music and chocolate as happily as you would have with the significant other. Don’t let the fun pass you by because you are single. Let the reality fill your day with joy- by doing all the things that you would have loved to do with the person that you love. However, since you haven’t found them, yet- then do all of them on your own.

— Share —

— About the Author —

Leave a Reply

— Follow Us —

Up Next

My Rendezvous With Life

My Rendezvous With Life

The treacherous waters of existence hail in their stride,As the beauty of sailing against the winds uproars in its ride.Benevolence in its yonder stirs the mirth of the true,Navigating the turbulent waves, death and I had a rendezvous.

I sought the beauty of the light that was unseen,In the depths of my muse, I found my world within.Life in its flair, trudged me into the emblems of the dark,The dreams that perspired in the seed embraced their death,As it was time for a new quest to embark.

Quaint whispers that echoed in their gallant stance,The jeers that surmounted the uncertainty galloped in their dance.Silencing the wind, bestriding the fall,I plunged into the entirety of my endeavours that call

For I chose to befriend the walk that marked the

Up Next

The Power of Understanding Your Love Language

The Power of Understanding Your Love Language

Love is the purest emotion one feels towards themselves and another individual. While the expression of love can vary in its entirety from one person to another, the care we hold for the ones we love shares an undeniable impact on how we forge our perceptions of interpersonal relationships. The way we communicate our feelings to someone also says a lot about how we are wired, the method of conveying our affection to our beloved ones is called a love language. You may express affection to the one you love regularly, but do you take the time to ensure that you are communicating it in the way that the other person prefers? Even love can become lost in translation when two individuals speak different love languages.

What are the five love languages?

Up Next

The Beauty Of Gratitude In A World Full Of Cynicism

The Beauty Of Gratitude In A World Full Of Cynicism

Ever acquainted with the phrase that the world that you exist in, the life that you embody dwells in the perception of the stance you hold for yourself. The beauty and the tragedy of life is that it is as beautiful as the optimistic lens of perception and as ugly as the pessimistic view of your being.

The strive of our endeavours and the constant effort to achieve the next massive milestone often drive us to the edges of insanity, to be in the consistent light of greatness we lose sight of the great strings of joy that bind our existence together. To be the best we have ever been we must be mindful of the best we are. Coinciding in the traps of negativity and yet claiming to be the best version of yourself is a blinding truth that lies to only

Up Next

I Breathe In The Sauntering Air That Collapses My Being

I Breathe In The Sauntering Air That Collapses My Being

I breathe in the sauntering air that collapses my being,I breathe through the crevices of my existence unseen.Uncertainty in its yonder strikes in bolt on the scars that nobody sees,Redemption that loves, redemption that is free, find me in the depths of my poetry.

Tales of lust ridden in smeared touches that belie,Entreated with envy, the visions of victory lie.To be or not to be in a question that yet lies,For I yearn for a world where fond passion never dies.

Enclasped in the cage of the deemed duty,Bounded in her vows, she forgot she was a thing of beauty.In a realm we live, where amour in its truth fails to stand tall,She, tired of her existence, submerges herself into the beauty that her dreams enthrall.

Chaos in its uproar hails in its darkness

Up Next

The Impact of Conflict on Workplace Productivity and Morale

The Impact of Conflict on Workplace Productivity and Morale

Conflict is a natural element of any dynamic whether it is personal or professional and knowing how to deal with it becomes an essential in any aspect of life. Conflicts in the workplace can arise for matters as trivial as difference in personal beliefs to matters such as project completions, working styles, deadlines, project goals and different outlooks towards work. For the sake of development and productivity, these disputes must be settled quickly and professionally. Understanding how conflicts arise and how to resolve them can help managers advance in their careers. We’ll go over what conflicts are, their different kinds, and the typical reasons why team members argue in this edition of The Wellness Digest.

What does conflict mean in the job?

Up Next

Identify The Wounds Of Your Childhood

Identify The Wounds Of Your Childhood

Being aware of the wounds of your childhood allows you to gain an understanding of yourself, including your emotions, behaviours, and thought patterns. Awareness is the first step towards healing, and acknowledging past wounds empowers you to address and work through emotional pain.

1. Wound of rejection

Childhood Impact: As a child, I felt like no one accepted me for who I was.

Adult Protection Strategy: Now, if someone or something makes me feel rejected, I tend to run away. I hide, isolate myself, and avoid everyone, even those who care about me. It’s like I believe everyone rejects me, and I don’t fit in.

2. Abandonment

Up Next

The Art of Self-Transformation: Tips for Personal Growth and Development

The Art of Self-Transformation

The journey of life often strikes us with a monotonous tone of finding chaos and distress in the mundanity of our daily lives. Not achieving what we set our mind to and being stuck in a downward spiral of self-doubt and self-pity is often a sign that something in our life is not going the right way. We need to take a step back and reevaluate the present situation we are in. Here are some concrete steps that you can follow to embrace change and become a better version of yourself.

1) Swot analysis –

One of the most important steps to understanding yourself is to assess your present situation and draw out the areas of your strengths,