2. Give an apology you truly mean.
Giving an apology does not simply mean saying the word ‘sorry’; you have to actually mean it. An insincere apology will make your partner feel more upset, and the fight will never be resolved healthily. If your apology is not genuine or true, then how will you be able to rectify the problem that caused the fight in the first place? Maybe a superficial sorry might help temporarily, but will it help in the long run? You are simply putting a band-aid on an open wound without even treating it first.
But, if you apologize genuinely, you will be able to empathize with your partner, and understand what hurt them, and why. Only a genuine apology will be able to close the distance between you two. If the fault is yours, admit it, and promise that you will seriously work on it, so that it doesn’t happen again. This will not just help you sort everything out; it will also make your partner trust you more.
3. Focus on the rules of healthy communication.
One of the strongest pillars of a fulfilling and successful relationship is healthy communication, and without it, lots of relationships bite the dust. After an emotional outburst, communication takes a hit, and no matter what you do, everything seems to go downhill from there. This is because when you are angry, hurt, anxious, or panicked, your body is filled with adrenaline, which is known as “flooding”. Flooding happens when your mind finds it difficult to unite all your emotions together.
When a person goes through flooding, they have two options to choose from – fight or flight. The person who chooses flight tends to give the silent treatment. In such a situation, no matter what you do, they will refuse to talk to you, or even acknowledge you. The best way to handle this situation is to let them be for some time (you also take some time to cool down), and then agree on a time when both of you will come together to talk about the fight, and settle it.
4. Try to understand if there are personality differences.
This is one thing that most people tend to overlook when it comes to dealing with the silent treatment, and that is personality differences. Are you an extrovert, and your partner an introvert?
If yes, then introverts tend to need more time to deal with their feelings, and process everything. When faced with an emotionally intense situation, they tend to withdraw more into themselves, and only come out of their shell, when they have fully processed everything.
In such cases, convey to your partner that you respect their silence, and you will give them the time and space they need to feel okay. However, also tell them that you want to talk about what happened after some time so that both of you can be on the same page. Taking time is okay, but not talking for hours, and days, is extremely unhealthy.
5. Never hold on to grudges.
When your partner starts talking to you, or when you both sit down together and try to make things right, remember never to hold grudges. The whole point of healthy communication is to understand what affects you both, what your weak points are, and what not to do to avoid such conflicts in the future.
Communication does not mean that you simply just talk; in order to make it effective, both of you need to understand each other. Unless you understand what makes them completely shut down, and give you the silent treatment, the same thing will keep on happening. End your conversation with an enhanced understanding of each other, and how both of you can help support each other in the future.
The silent treatment only works temporarily, and if you want to have a healthy relationship, then you need to understand this. Certain situations might not make it easy for you or your partner to have transparent communication, but you should never make it a habit. It will only put your relationship on troubled waters, and by the time you realize this, it might be too late.
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