4. Your professional life is messed up
Reaching late to the office has become a new routine for you? Your boss is complaining about poor productivity? Your colleagues are asking you “are you okay?” or repeatedly telling you “you are not in yourself”? Planning to drop out of college due to low grades? Even a salary hike has failed to lift your spirits? Sure, you are not feeling at your best. It’s time to deal with underlying emotional and psychological issues killing your drive to work.
If you are disconnected with yourself, how can you be connected with your job? Popping pills can only boost your concentration and attention. But, what about motivation? And inner peace?
A therapist will help you gain an objective perspective and gain a professional opinion regarding what is causing your problems. And help you effectively treat them by designing a plan tailored to your specific needs. You will feel less guilty, more confident and worthy of success.
5. You’re struggling to build and maintain relationships
Are you avoiding your old friends? Having arguments with your partner? Too reluctant to respond to calls and social media messages? Get-together plans and late-night parties no more excite you? Your relationships are strained, my friend! Because you are not happy with yourself. Hurry up, before things get worse.
“People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.” — Joseph F. Newton Men
If you don’t love yourself, how will you love others? In order to build a healthy relationship with others, you need to first maintain a healthy relationship with yourself.
Talking therapy or family counselling is the right choice. With the right tools, techniques, and support you will be able to improve your social skills, learn fair fighting, assertiveness, and resolve resentments. And, achieve more joy and satisfaction in your love and work relations.
6. You’re experiencing changes or disruptions in appetite
The reason for mental agony can be anything, break up, loss of a job, death of a loved one and so on. Different people have different coping skills when they are emotionally down! Some people eat a lot, while some lose their appetites.
Such changes in the eating pattern can result in unexplained weight loss or weight gain. Leaving your dietary changes unaddressed can open the door to bigger mental and physical health issues.
“A very large body of evidence now exists that suggests diet is as important to mental health as it is to physical health,” according to Felice Jacka, president of the International Society for Nutritional Psychiatry Research.
Talk to a therapist to nip the evil in the bud.
7. You’re spending sleepless nights
Just like sleeping too much is a sign of depression, staying awake for long hours is also a sign of a mental health issue. Anxiety and mania may cause sleeplessness. So, if you are sleeping too less or more than usual, it’s time to book an appointment with a therapist.
Spending sleepless nights for days may lead to insomnia, which can add to the stress, fatigue and other physical health issues. It’s like a vicious cycle. Studies show that cognitive-behavioural therapy can effectively treat insomnia.
8. You’ve unexplained and recurrent aches and pains
Research shows that different types of physical pain are actually associated with emotional problems. For example, headaches and migraines occur when you have troubled thoughts in mind, neck pains are linked to holding grudges, feeling of solitude and rejection can give rise to upper back pain, pelvic pain is linked with sexuality and guilt, and so on. As you can see emotional distress can cause a host of physical symptoms.
Unfortunately, we don’t give the same priority to emotional pain as physical pain. Sure, it’s important to consult a physician to rule out any major physical health issue. In case, there are no known medical causes, you should talk to a therapist. Therapy can help you both physically and mentally.
9. You’ve experienced trauma
Did you experience sexual abuse, neglect, physical abuse in childhood or grew up seeing family disputes, parental separation? If you have not made peace with your past and the horrifying memories still haunt you, then talk therapy is the best choice.