7. Always making excuses about giving up
They try to justify the excuses they make about giving up on themselves. This can include sabotaging their chances of having a happy life. They tend to fear rejection, avoid failure, or being judged. They make excuses to avoid their constant feeling of not being good enough. This ultimately ensures that they never reach their goals in life.
8. Engaging self-destructive coping behavior
They tend to seek instant relief when they are not feeling good about themselves. So they attempt to feel better by engaging in destructive behaviors such as addictions, affairs, or self-defeating behaviors.
They end up destroying themselves and running away from these unwanted feelings that ruin their life.
9. Self punish or beating themselves up
When they set out a goal and fail to reach the desired outcome, they think they are not good enough. They attack themselves with self-blame and punish themselves when things go wrong. They beat themselves up when things aren’t quite going their way.
10. Signs of victim complex: It’s always someone else’s fault
It’s always someone else’s fault for a person with victim complex. This is a classic sign of victim complex. This happens because they lack self-responsibility and blame others when things go wrong. It’s always the case when things go wrong in their life. Since they always give their responsibilities to someone else, it ultimately becomes the other person’s fault when things are not going as planned.
How to Stop?
If this sounds like something you relate to, you are probably wondering how to fix this. Are there any strategies that can help you to deal with victim complex? If you want to stop feeling like a victim, you have to take responsibility for your own actions. Placing blame on others or situations for things not going your way, and running away from your feelings of not being good enough will always get you stuck in this vicious cycle.
If you want to heal, it’s time to start listening to your inner self and examine your habits and thought patterns. Living with a victim complex can ruin your life if you let these feelings take over and impact your life.
You can learn to change your thought patterns. Here’s what you can do:
- Seek out a therapist or counselor
- Practicing mindfulness and meditation
- Seeking advice from trusted friends and family
- Practice gratitude
- Self-reflection and asking why this thought is creating suffering
- Take note of negative self-talk
- Offer encouragement and validation to yourself by pointing out the good things you do, highlighting your achievements
- Work on self compassion
- Create a plan to achieve your goals
- Reading self-help books
To conclude, having a victim complex can be challenging since it interferes with the capabilities of growing as an individual. It is important to understand that only you can change the way you think about yourself. Self-determination is an essential part of healing from victim complexity.