2. Accept that she is the woman your son chose to marry.
Many mothers in law tend to treat their daughters in law as people who are just add-ons in the family, and not true family members. This can affect a daughter in law’s mental and emotional health and make them feel unwanted.
If you are guilty of doing this, intentionally or unintentionally, then you need to understand that she is the woman your son has married, and she deserves to have an important position in the family.
But if you haven’t ever made her feel unwelcome, and she still chooses to behave with you like that, you still need to accept that she is your son’s wife. Understand that if your son has married her, then she probably makes him happy. Your relationship with her might not be the best, but you can be cordial with her for your son’s sake.
3. Respect her boundaries and give her some space.
No matter how much it bothers you, you need to respect her boundaries and give her the space she needs. If she feels uncomfortable with something you are doing or saying, then you need to respect that. Don’t try to impose your presence and opinions on her, and give her the space she wants.
You might feel that you are doing the right thing by making an effort to integrate yourself into their lives, but from her perspective, it might seem a bit stifling and forced. So don’t go overboard in trying to build a relationship with her, and let her be. If you respect her space, you might have a better relationship with her.
4. Make your peace with the fact that she might never change.
Sometimes, you need to accept things you cannot change, and the same stands true for this too. You need to accept her for who she is and the fact that she might never change her ways. Despite trying so hard to be nice to her, if she is still behaving rudely with you, then you need to let it go.
Toxic people rarely change, and if you keep on hoping that she will, you are just setting yourself up for more disappointment. Make your peace with the fact that this is who she is and who she always be.
Be nice to her when you see her for your son and grandchildren’s sake, but don’t keep on trying to have a normal relationship with her. You will just end up getting more humiliated and insulted.
Do you have a toxic daughter in law, and what kind of a relationship do you share with her? Let us know your experiences in the comments section down below!