5. She makes your son and grandchildren spend most of the holidays with her side of the family.
Not that it’s a bad thing to spend the holidays with your in-laws, but you will notice that your son has started to spend every holiday with his wife’s family. He hardly spends Christmas or Thanksgiving with you, and simply just sends a card to wish you.
You understand that now that your son is married, it’s important for him to prioritize his wife’s family too, but what hurts you is that he has completely forgotten about you and never shows any interest in spending any time with you.
If your daughter in law is toxic, she will try her best to alienate you from your son, and will always monopolize him and his time. Even when there is scope for compromise, she will make sure that you never get to see your son during these special occasions.
6. She never lets you see your grandchildren.
Your grandchildren are your world, but unfortunately, when you have a toxic daughter in law, be rest assured that you will hardly get to see them or even talk to them.
She hates it if her children warm up to you, and wants to spend time with you; she will go to any lengths to make sure that never happens.
If your grandchildren consider you a cool grandmother, she will brainwash them into thinking you are anything but that. She will tell them that you are a bad person who does not care about them and only cares about herself.
If you give your grandchildren any gifts, she takes them away and gives them all sorts of horrible explanations and excuses as to why they shouldn’t accept the gifts. If they want to visit you, she forbids them from doing so. And this goes on and on and on, till the time they completely lose interest in seeing you.
7. She gets annoyed and defensive at the drop of a hat.
She gets defensive and annoyed whenever you give your opinion, it’s as if she hates the sound of your voice and can’t stand it in the slightest. Even if you are saying something nice, or giving some valuable advice, she will lose her temper and accuse you of patronizing her.
This constant disrespect makes you question her motives and behavior, and you keep on wondering what is it that you did that made her lash out like this. Don’t worry, it’s not your fault. When you have a toxic daughter in law, she will always try to put you down, despite your positive intentions.
4 Ways You Can Cope With A Toxic Daughter In Law
1. Try to understand why she is behaving like this.
It can be hard trying to be the bigger person when your daughter in law is always being rude to you. But despite all that, if you still want to have a cordial relationship with her, then you need to understand why she is the way she is.
Is something bothering her about you? Did you unknowingly hurt her sometime? Does she come from a dysfunctional or toxic family? Or is she simply a bad person?
There are many reasons as to why a toxic person is the way they are, and even though you don’t deserve to be treated this way, if you want to forge a relationship with her, then trying to understand the source of her anger might help you do that. There is no guarantee that this will make things right, but it’s worth a try, isn’t it?