Conversational Narcissism: 5 Signs To Spot A Conversational Narcissist

Conversational Narcissism Signs To Spot

How To Use Conversation Narcissism As An Opportunity For Inner Growth

Talking to CN’s sucks.

I think the deepest reason why it stinks is that we all seek to feel seen, heard, and validated. It’s a basic human need. We want to connect with others from the heart and soul. But conversational narcissism blocks that opportunity.

It’s easy to let conversational narcissism make you feel resentful. Yet, while it’s normal and healthy to feel angry at their selfishness, staying in that place for too long is unhealthy. My advice: instead of letting CN shut you down, let it open you up. Use it as an opportunity for inner growth.

“Inner growth!?” some people may exclaim. Yes, hear me out.

Conversational narcissism is an opportunity for you to:

  1. Be self-sovereign and practice self-respect
  2. Practice setting healthy personal boundaries
  3. Open your heart, see underneath the exterior, and understand that their pain comes from the wounded inner child – and …
  4. Let that compassion empower you (I don’t know about you, but I feel disempowered when I let another person get me bitter and enraged)

How To Interact With A Conversational Narcissist

Talking to a conversational narcissist can be draining and tedious – especially if you see that there’s nothing in it for you.

How about changing the way you look at things?

Don’t worry, I don’t like the thought of changing something in myself either, especially when it’s the narcissist who should change!

The fact is: you can’t change anyone, so give up trying now.

The only thing you can change is your outlook and perception.

For instance, you could see talking to a conversational narcissist as a form of interpersonal training. You could also see it as a way to forge many great qualities such as patience, forbearance, compassion, stronger self-worth, and focus.

Yes, all these qualities can be strengthened by listening to a self-absorbed, insensitive, and egotistical person!

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According to the research I’ve done, the best way to interact smoothly with a narcissist is as following:

  1. Don’t demand or expect too much.
  2. Accept that you have to listen. A lot. (Or not, your choice.)
  3. For swift conversation, resist the temptation of challenging the narcissist’s thoughts and desires.
  4. Nod, smile, and keep quiet a lot.

I don’t necessarily agree with this way of approaching narcissists all the time – but if you’re not in the mood to stir the pot, these four rules will help you to ease the tension that comes with talking to them.

On the other hand, if you’re wanting to end a conversation with them quickly, I’ve found the following techniques work wonders:

1. Talk about something really boring, and keep repeating what you’ve just said in different ways. This style of communication is called the ‘grey rock’ method.

2. a time limit. After ten minutes or so leave the conversation (have a handy excuse ready), no matter what!

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How To Recover From Your Interaction

No one ever really talks about what happens after you interact with a conversational narcissist.

But the truth is, you need a little time to recover!

After all, you’ve just come in contact with a person who is so wounded and self-absorbed that they treat you like an object rather than a human being.

Conversational narcissists are energy vampires who can leave us feeling weak, emotionally fragile, depressed, anxious, and exhausted.

To regain your energy:

  1. Learn how to ground yourself
  2. Practice self-love
  3. Try some relaxing breathwork
  4. And if you’re an empath (i.e., energy-sensitive person), take some time to practice extra self-care

Even something as simple as sipping a hot cup of tea or taking a few deep centering breaths can make a world of difference!

You might also like to journal about your experience with the CN. What did they teach you? How do you feel? This is a wonderful way to grow in self-awareness, spiritual awakening, and can help to decompress your nervous system.

How do you handle conversational narcissism? I’d love to hear in the comments!

Written by: Aletheia Luna
Originally appeared on: Loner Wolf
Republished with permission

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Aletheia Luna

Aletheia Luna is an influential spiritual writer whose work has changed the lives of thousands of people worldwide. After escaping the religious sect she was raised in, Luna experienced a profound existential crisis that led to her spiritual awakening. As a spiritual counselor and professional writer, Luna's mission is to help others become conscious of their entrapment and find joy, empowerment, and liberation in any circumstance. See more of her work at lonerwolf.comView Author posts