These apps originated to make dating more efficient and accessible. But they can only work if you are in fact accessible.
Bottom line, if you’re on dating apps, you should actually be dating. If you aren’t, it may be time to take a breather and reevaluate your mindset. After all, you should be giving yourself a chance to fall in love, not looking for every reason not to.
So remove all the assumptions and stop letting fear hold you back. Yes, it can be scary. They might not return your message or want to meet. They might not like you or you might not like them. But all that fear has you sidestepping possibility. It’s stripping you of the opportunity to sit across from someone – to see how you feel and gauge the attraction; to ask questions, hear answers, give answers, and get to know them. It’s denying you the very reason you’re in this.
There will be bad dates. There will be disappointments. You can’t choose who you like or who likes you. But you CAN choose how you view each experience. You can choose your perspective, your mindset, and your attitude. When those go south, so does all the fun, potential, and possibility that is supposed to be dating.
When that happens, it’s okay to take a break. Sometimes the game is best played from the sideline.
Written By Kacie Main Originally Appeared In Thought Catalog