6. Thinking only about themselves
Of course, it’s important to think of oneself. But if they only care about what happens to them, then they are probably selfish. It is important to have people in life that care and that it’s a two way street. So booking vacations without consulting the boss or forcing co-workers to do the extra work is not a great sign. Thinking about himself or herself only can only do so much. On the other hand, working together as a team can mean so much more.
7. Having a picture perfect idea about the future
It is absolutely amazing to have goals and dreams and knowing what to achieve in life. This becomes a concern when they don’t want to make room for love and a partner. They probably don’t want to meet someone amazing in the midst of chasing their dreams and goals. They can always have the best of both worlds when the timing is just right. Falling in love is a special and amazing experience. But if they are too consumed with the idea that it may interfere with the future plans then it is being selfish. It is important to not be so focused on the goals that they forget the important aspects of life that may have a positive impact on them and the future.
8. They just can’t be happy for anyone
Did their coworker just get a promotion? Or someone just got way too many followers on Instagram? Or their best friend got engaged? Getting upset every time they hear good news without being super supportive and happy, is a classic sign that they are selfish. Their friends are probably wondering why they have nothing nice to say when their friends share the good news. So unless losing friends is the goal, they might wanna keep their behavior in check.
9. They are super jealous
We all get jealous sometimes and it is normal. For instance, if someone goes on a vacation to where you always wanted to go or does something that you’ve dreamed of doing. Of course, anyone is going to be jealous. Being jealous is a sign of a human being with feelings. It can be a matter of concern if he or she is always the jealous person and tend to compare themselves to everything. This is another classic sign someone is selfish.
Now that you’ve figured out whether someone is a selfish person or not, here’s a few tips to stop being selfish:
- Become a better listener
- Try to put yourself in their shoes and understand their point of view
- Figure out a way to manage time in a fruitful manner
- Walk away from any negative circumstances such as not replying to the rude person at the coffee shop or the bus
- Understand the power of the present moment
- Break the old selfish habits and patterns and build new ones instead
- Release the endless need to control every event and person in life
To conclude, if these signs seem like something you can relate to, it’s time to take a long and hard look at their behaviors and feelings to assess if they are truly are selfish. This will help them to change for the better and give chances to themselves that they deserve. By making a conscious effort and seeing it from a different perspective can help to cultivate compassion and build better relationships. Being selfish only brings loneliness, isolation, and losing connection to your beautiful and authentic self. When we learn to embrace the power of now and understand the beauty that life brings, nothing can stop us from experiencing a magnificent transformation.