13 Signs You Are Sleeping With a Narcissist

Signs Sleeping With a Narcissist

8) Be unfaithful.

Most narcissists who are fixated on the idea of their partner being unfaithful, are projecting. Thus, it is not uncommon for a narcissist to be unfaithful in their relationship even when they vowed to be monogamous. The bottom line is that they want attention and must feel desired, thus they feel entitled to have affairs. While they feel entitled to have their affairs, it does not mean that their partner can have an affair, and they are prepared to evoke wrath to no end if this does happen.

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9) Incest.

Narcissists love to control people even during making love. Family members are no exception, especially those that are vulnerable and are easily accessed. Not all narcissists are incestuous, but most people who initiate incestuous acts are narcissistic. With family members, narcissists have easy access to them, thus they can intimidate and manipulate them more easily and readily. There is also the added threat to harm another family member if the victim discusses the incest or tries to get out participating.

10) Physically predatory behaviors.

Not every narcissist is a physical predator, but every predator is narcissistic. Narcissists consider themselves to be god-like and feed off controlling others. They will often seek out others who they can intimidate, and control by performing sexual acts. If ever caught or confronted about their predatory behavior, most narcissists tend to deny doing it or will blame the victim.

Common victim-blaming statements “he/she came on to me” or “he/she came into the room while I was naked,” or “he/she wanted it.” It is also not uncommon for a narcissist to impersonate a person of authority (for example a police officer) to engage in physically predatory behaviors.

11) Detachment.

When a narcissistic partner starts to withdraw from a relationship with you, their body language and actions will speak volumes. The affection and the attention dissipate into thin air, and sometimes overnight. Long and lingering kisses, turn into pecks on the cheek, there is a lack of touch, and there is a lack of intimacy in the bedroom. It is almost like you turned into a stranger.

Even the sleeping patterns will change. Even while sleeping your partner will try to distance themselves from you by sleeping as far away from you as possible and avoiding touching, going to bed at a different time to avoid sleeping with you, or not even sleeping in the same room with you. A narcissistic partner is distancing themselves away from you mentally so that they can leave the relationship or immerse themselves deeper into their affair. If this is happening to you then it is a clear sign that you are sleeping with a narcissist.

12) Physical Violation.

It is not uncommon for a narcissist to start being physical with you while you are unconscious or sleeping. Perhaps, you have woke up to your partner forcing it with you in the middle of the night. Another type of sexual violation is to secretly record you during the act without your consent or to take provocative pictures of you while you were sleeping. The narcissistic partner will mull over these items later and potentially use these things in a revenge plot against you.

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13) Preoccupation with body parts and performance.

When you are sleeping with a narcissist, it is not uncommon for your partner to obsess over body parts. They will often pour over magazines looking at body parts, making internal comparisons. They will also overspend and obsess on bodily enhancements such as a vacuum, pills, enlargement gadgets, and plastic surgery, and bleaching of private parts. The idea is that they want to be the biggest and the best.

It is not uncommon for a narcissistic partner to observe themselves during the act by watching them in the mirror or recording the encounter on camera. They are often infatuated with their own performance.

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