4) They refuse to discuss their private health and history and become upset when you ask them about it.
In a healthy relationship, it’s not uncommon to discuss your private health (e.g. whether you have had an STD, how many partners you have had, when you became physically active, what types of intimate physical activities you have engaged in, etc.). A narcissistic lover is typically secretive about their love life, and when you ask them about it, to them it feels like you are prying.
If you inquire about the number of physical partners they have had, they may become upset, accuse you of asking an absurd question, avoid discussing the topic altogether, lie, or try to make you feel embarrassed or ashamed for asking them about their physical history.
A narcissistic partner wants to hold all the power in the physical relationship, thus they perceive giving you information about their private past is leverage or power over them. Thus, they will avoid being honest and open about their love making history.
5) Be addicted to p*rn.
If you are sleeping with a narcissist, remember it is not uncommon for them to be attracted to p*rn (and this does not mean that everyone who is addicted to watching it is a narcissist). Watching it is attractive to narcissists for a variety of reasons.
They can study it and learn about intimate acts that can be used for control and to entice partners. Watching it is also attractive to a narcissist because they can control it. Thus, it’s easy for them to imagine that they are the controller and the creator of everything that they are watching.
6) Engage in risky behaviors.
Some narcissists will engage in risky intimate behaviors in bed which include prostitution, the group acts, and hookups outside of the relationship to name a few. It is also not uncommon for a narcissistic partner to have a high number of physical relationship partners, some of which they may not remember.
Often narcissistic lovers claim to strongly dislike their previous partners. Again, they would also be highly likely to engage in these behaviors without using birth control. Because of their risky physical behavior, they are also highly likely to bring home STDs to their partners.
If confronted about their risky behaviors or the consequences of them, the narcissistic partner will deny doing anything wrong, will blame you for them engaging in those acts, twist the argument around on you, or avoid the conversation altogether. Most noticeable is their lack of concern about the STD.
It should also be said that a narcissistic partner will often pressure you to engage in risky unusual physical act with them, and then condemn you for it later. The idea is that they wanted to see how far you would go for them, and then if you give into your demands, they are in disbelief and disgust that you actually gave into them. They will become angry, degrade you, or even kick you out over giving into their demands.
7) Be paranoid about your faithfulness.
Some narcissistic partners will become paranoid and fixated on the idea that you are making out with someone else. Even if you are in a monogamous relationship with your partner, they will fly into a jealous rage about an imagined fantasy that they have of you cheating on them.
They will often try to “prove” your infidelity by trying to catch you in the act, following you, screening your calls/social media/emails, and berating you about every person you encounter. Other acts could include searching your phone/clothes/car and smelling your clothes to try and pick up the scent of another person. It’s a red flag that you are sleeping with a narcissist