4. They have emotionless and soulless eyes.
When you have feelings for someone, your eyes speak it all, don’t they? That love, adoration, and sparkle is something else. But this doesn’t ring true for a narcopath. No matter how much they tell you that they love you and want to spend the rest of their lives with you when you look into their eyes, there’s nothing, absolutely no emotion there.
It’s like you are looking into a dark, never-ending abyss with no light at all. When they stare into your eyes, you feel uncomfortable and even scared sometimes, because of the lack of emotion in them. Narcopaths have emotionless and soulless eyes because they don’t feel anything for anyone, and the only thing they understand is fulfilling their own needs, by hook or by crook.
5. They will always try to provoke negative reactions from you.
When you are in a toxic relationship with a narcopath, be rest assured that things are never going to be easy and peaceful. They will always try to do something that will provoke you, upset you, or break your heart. Whenever things are too ‘normal’, they try to stir up drama and work hard at getting a negative reaction from you. For example, you might be busy with work, and might not be able to pay attention to them 24/7, so they will create a scene and accuse you of not being serious enough about the relationship.
You can cry yourself hoarse and try to convince them that that’s not the case, but they will keep coming at you with all sorts of lies and accusations. And the moment you snap and lose your temper, they will pull the rug from under you and accuse you of being rude to them and for treating them badly. This is the game they always play with everyone they are in a relationship with.
6. They love giving the silent treatment.
The silent treatment is a narcopath’s best friend when they really want to ramp up the level of abuse towards someone. Whenever they feel that their needs are not getting met, and they are not the center of attention, their passive-aggressive side comes out with a flourish. They love being the center of attention everywhere they go, and the moment they don’t get what they want, they lose it.
It’s always you who has to understand what they need and expect from you. It’s always you who needs to make them happy. It’s always you who has to treat them like royalty. And if God forbid, you don’t, they will not just pick a fight with you, they will also give the silent treatment once the fight is over. You will be driven crazy by their radio silence and after a point, you will find yourself begging them to stop it.
The silent treatment will get so bad, that you will apologize to them, for something that was never even your fault. This is how narcopaths manipulate you into believing that they are the victim, and you the culprit.
7. They love talking about themselves.
Now, narcopaths may pretend that they like you and are interested in knowing what is going on with you, but whenever you start talking about yourself, they somehow make the conversation all about themselves. For instance, suppose you have had a bad day at work and you are venting about that to them, just after a few minutes they will start talking about how they are having a hard time at work too.