7 Evident Signs Of Pocketing
1. They never invite you to their home.
There comes a point when your relationship seems stable and serious enough for you to go to their home, and it’s a big sign that they are serious about having a future with you. Because let’s face it, how long will you keep on meeting up with each other and have dates in bars, pubs, and restaurants?
Now despite being with each other for quite some time, and they are still not inviting you to their place, then take it as a sign of pocketing. They might have been at your place a couple of times, but when the tables turn, they always seem to hesitate and back out.
2. They don’t like talking about their close ones.
You might talk about everything under the sun, but whenever the topic of family and friends comes up, your partner seems to clam up. They try their best to avoid talking about their close ones and keep on changing the topic, or straight up refuse to talk about them. It’s like you have absolutely no idea about their family.
Do they have siblings? What are their parents’ names? What do their parents do? Do they have a good relationship with their family? Do they come from a dysfunctional family or a healthy family? All these questions swirl around in your mind, but there’s no way of getting those answers. Ever.
3. They haven’t added you on their social media.
When it comes to dating these days, posting pictures with your significant other is the norm these days, and one of the best ways to tell people that you are taken. However, if the person you are dating not just refuses to post about you online, but also hasn’t added you to their social media, then that’s a humongous red flag.
Granted, some people might be very private about their personal lives and might not like to post much about it online, but if they have locked you out from their accounts, or if there’s not even a hint of you on their profiles, then consider it a red flag.
4. They always want to meet up in secluded places.
Do you always end up meeting in places that are quite far away from their home? And have they pitched the idea of meeting you out of town more often than not? Well, this is not good. Going on weekend getaways once in a while is exciting and fun, but if that’s the only way both of you are meeting up, then you need to see it for what it really is.
This shows that they are trying to avoid places where there is a strong chance that they might run into someone they know. Going to inconspicuous, secluded, and faraway places is an attempt to make sure that nobody they know sees them with you. They are not just pocketing you, but are also treating you like a dirty secret.
5. They address you as their ‘friend’ in case they run into someone.
One of the most hurtful signs that you are being pocketed is when you run into someone your partner knows, and they introduce you as just ‘a friend’. They never acknowledge the real relationship between you two, and refrain from hugging you or kissing you in front of others.
You have not only not met their friends and family, the worst part is they have no idea that you exist.
6. They only contact you when they want to hook up.
More often than not, when someone is pocketing you, it means that they are only interested in having sex with you and nothing more than that. They will contact you when they want to hook up, but will never ask you out on a proper date that might not involve sex.
They will always text you or call you after dark, because obviously, they don’t want to be seen with you in broad daylight, in the fear that they might run into someone they know. Please never mistake this as being mysterious, he/she is simply being a lowlife with you, and unfortunately only sees you just as an ‘easy lay’.