vi. You tend to become easily frustrated and tend to lose your temper. As you are under constant stress to avoid failure, you are highly prone to emotional outbursts when things don’t go your way.
vii. You are unable to accept criticism as it denotes that you have failed at something. Even the slightest constructive criticism can make you feel anxious and afraid.
viii. You are unable to enjoy your success. Even after accomplishing an important goal, you immediately run after the next.
ix. You don’t enjoy doing things that are not good at as it means there’s a chance you may fail at getting those things done. So you choose to stick to things you know well and are already good at.
x. Overachievement affects your relationships with your partner, family and friends. As you are always busy with your work, you can never manage to spend quality time with your loved ones.
xi. You often work long hours and are often the first one to reach your workplace and the last one to leave.
xii. You are always running against time. You find yourself running constantly from one task to the other and hence you are unable to find any work-life balance.
How to deal with overachievement
If you can identify with most of the signs of an overachiever mentioned above, then there are certain things you can do to deal with it.
Here are a few steps that will help you to succeed and accomplish goals without affecting your mental and physical health, well-being, relationships, and life.
1. Step back and question yourself
Goals are important. But it is also important to know why they are important. As you become driven by your fear of failure, ask yourself what’s the worst that can happen if you can’t accomplish this goal. Do you really care that much about it? Is this a realistic goal?
“While it may not change your mind about pursuing your objective, it may help you gain a bit of perspective about why you are chasing this goal,” writes Kendra Cherry, MS.
2. Learn to accept failure
Failure is not necessarily a bad thing. It can be an excellent learning experience that can take you another step closer to success. Failure can teach you things success never can. Once you learn to accept the bitterness of failure and the joy of overcoming it, you will be more likely to navigate through different obstacles in life. Having the ability to get back up after getting knocked down will make you more resilient and more likely to succeed.
3. Focus on the process, not the outcome
If you want to overcome your tendency for overachievement, then you need to carefully understand the difference between overachievement and high performance. Unlike overachievers, high performers focus more on their performances and achieving their goals as opposed to avoiding failure.
For overachievers, it’s product over process. However, for high performers, it’s process over product. So if you wish to cope with your habit to overachieve, then you need to shift your mindset and focus on the process instead of the product.
Kendra Cherry writes “Success does not just mean finishing on time or ticking certain tasks off a list. Instead, it is all about the journey itself, how well the project turns out, and how much they learn along the way.”
4. Do what makes you happy
Instead of running after your next promotion or giving up everything to be more successful, focus on what actually matters to you. Instead of trying to impress and please others do what enriches your soul and makes you happy. “Check in with what really makes you happy,” explains Amanda Smear Baudier, Yoga instructor and founder of The Social Sutras.