7 Signs Your Mother Is An Exhibitionist Narcissist

Is Your Mother an Exhibitionist Narcissist?

7 Signs Your Mother Is An Exhibitionist Narcissist

If you can relate to the following examples, and these seven issues played a big role in your childhood, this may be a sign that you too were raised by an Exhibitionist Narcissist mother.

I hope that you do not recognize too many of them.


1. She Needs to Be the Center of Attention

Like all Exhibitionist Narcissists, the Exhibitionist Narcissist mother craves attention.

Somehow, no matter who is talking or what else is going on, she will always manage to find a way to make it about her.

She may do this gracefully with humor and a funny story or by abruptly interrupting the ongoing conversation and changing the topic to her.

An Example:

One mother like this visited her daughter in the hospital. Her daughter was recovering from major surgery.

Instead of focusing on her daughter, she began flirting with the doctors and talking to the people visiting the patient in the next bed.

She was shocked when her daughter later told her how hurt and abandoned she had felt.

The mother was so focused on the good time that she was having that it never occurred to her that her daughter might feel differently.


2. She Is Low on Emotional Empathy

One of the interesting characteristics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (or “Adaptation” as I prefer to call it) is that the Narcissistic person does not usually  “feel” what other people are feeling.

The Narcissistic mother may have “Cognitive Empathy” (i.e. she may be able to intellectually understand that some behavior of hers might cause her child pain), but without “Emotional Empathy” she has little incentive to care.

Her emotional pain perception only goes one way.  If you accidentally cause her even the slightest bit of emotional pain, she is likely to react in a highly exaggerated way, while completely ignoring the pain that she is causing you.

An Example:

When John’s mother Carol had a birthday, she expected everyone around her to make a fuss: give her thoughtful birthday cards, buy her presents, take her out to dinner at her favorite restaurant, and in general make her whole day extremely special.

When John turned ten, he woke up very excited, wondering what special surprise his mother had planned for him:

Would he get the bike he had been asking for? 

Would there be ice cream cake? 

Unfortunately, Carol had been very busy all week and had completely forgotten about John’s upcoming birthday and had not even gotten him a present or a card.

When John acted disappointed, his mother felt criticized and instead of apologizing, she attacked him and said: “Stop acting like a baby!  You’re too old now for special presents anyway.”

John’s father David (who does have “Emotional Empathy”) had assumed that his wife was doing the birthday planning.

When he saw how hurt and disappointed John was, he quickly stepped in to try and save the day for John.

He took John and his sister to a local amusement park and out for ice cream, while his wife stayed home sulking. That night after the children were in bed, Carol berated her husband for making her look bad.